I am friends with this man, but am also married. This man is not interested in me on an intimate level. Can we still remain friends? In what capacity?
2006-08-21 09:05:33 · 24 answers · asked by tiafromtijuana 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of course you can still be friends, so long as you are able to keep your feelings in check. If you cannot control yourself then, yep you might need to end the friendship, how sad for him if he loses your friendship that way though...
2006-08-21 09:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that remaining friends with a man you're in love with who is not your husband is such a hot idea. Maybe you should take a some time off from pining for this person and turn your focus toward your marriage. What is it about this friend that blows you away, and is there a way to find that in your husband? And, if not, you must have married him for some reason, right? I think Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young said it best, "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with."
2006-08-21 16:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You actually should not remain friends with a man who attracts you but is not your husband. The feelings you have for him are not returned, thank goodness, and so you must turn your heart back to your marriage.
A marriage is not made by looking away from it. It is made and maintained by looking forward from it, together with your husband. If everything you do is designed to build, protect, and improve your marriage, it has a better chance of surviving.
If you do not want to dedicate yourself to that, then you need to let your husband be free to find someone who is by divorcing him.
2006-08-21 16:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I have had several friends that I loved, but it doesn't mean you have to love him like your husband. Many times when people get tired of their relationships, or when they are in a bad relationship, people mistake kindness for love. Keep him as a friend, in that capacity. It will give you someone to talk to, who can give you advice, and also just listen. You will find your marriage get better just by having someone to communicate with who is bias to your side of things!
2006-08-21 16:15:02 · answer #4 · answered by Thunder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is, that you're in love with him and he's not.
Therefore you cannot remain friends. On the other hand you might think you're in love with him, but it could be just infatuation.Stay distant friends, and see how you feel in 6 months or so. Things like this have the tendency to trickle away slowly.
Good Luck!
2006-08-21 16:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a legalist point of view, you can remain friends with this fellow. From a practical point of view, end the friendship (relationship) now. Example: one fellow asked why he needed to be in church to worship God. He said that he could worship God at the creek. The response from long ago, "You may be able to worship God at the creek, but it is proven that you won't. So go to church and you will worship God."
You might be able to just have a friendship, but it is more likely that you will seriously undermine your marriage relationship.
If you need something your husband is not providing, then you have to talk with your husband. He should respond to being addressed honestly and with respect. He will not respond well to anger or accusation. You might need counseling regarding communication skills....both of you.
2006-08-21 16:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"This man is not interested in me on an intimate level. Can we still remain friends?"
Looks like 'friends' is ALL you can be. At least until HE changes his interest, doesn't it?
2006-08-21 16:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your in love with him then you can't remain friends with him. Even if it is just one sided you are putting your marriage at risk. By remaining friends with this guy you will find yourself putting more effort into that friendship than in to your marriage and you will end up divorced and in love with a man who sees you only as a friend.
2006-08-21 16:12:34 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this man is not interested in you on an intimate level, then the relationship can not go farther. As a side note, one of you are already spoken for so, don't add extra drama to your life.
2006-08-21 16:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Golden Scepter 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay away and keep ypur heart and give your time and love to someone that not married .I was in a relationship with a married man for many year and got lies a little money and a little honey I get out late meet a good man got married now I`m happy and I`m not sharing
2006-08-21 16:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by giggi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋