Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 6 months. We broke up once before because he said he was getting too close. Now we just broke up again but decided to stay close beause he said that he was beginning to lose feelings for me. But he promised me that he wouldn't break it off totally until he knew how he felt for sure. And i always tell him that i will be here no matter what. We still see eachother and we still act as if we were together but we are not officially. What i need help with is i dont know what i should do in this situation. Im thinking about just waiting for the decision and all i want is to be with him but i dont know what to do from here.
2006-08-21 09:01:02 · 15 answers · asked by x0x0626 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So you dont mind sitting around WAITING On him to decide how he really feels for you. He is using you, and YOUR allowing it to happen. Move on hon.
2006-08-21 09:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he is having issues with commiting solely to you on that level that you want him too.
See he wants you but wants to still have options just in case things don't completely work out. And now your broke up and just sleep together as if your still together that is doing you or him no good at all. Give him an ultimatium and if he cares about you in anyway at all he'll give you an answer.
2006-08-21 09:11:36 · answer #2 · answered by kelly m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Painful though it may be, you should recognize that he has difficulty with commitment. If he knows you are going to go along with whatever he decides, why should he commit? He can have his cake and eat it too, and get all his needs met while not meeting yours.
I think you should tell him you are tired of his indecisiveness, go look for somebody new and tell him if he is ready to commit, fine, but to not bother you until he is.
2006-08-21 09:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by lmnop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER EVER wait for a guy to decide if he wants to be with you or not. Who in the hell is this guy that you should be waiting for him ?? If he doesn't think he cares for you then the hell with him. Only put your energies into a guy who cant wait to be with you. You have let this guy have his cake and eat it too. Drop him like a bag of garbage.
2006-08-21 09:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you allowing someone else to have this much control in your life?
You need to drop-kick his butt to the curb, and work on your self esteem before you get into another relationship.
2006-08-21 09:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its time for you to take control of the situation. Is this relationship with all the stress and mental anguish that you are going though.
2006-08-21 09:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he thinking? I'm thinking he is thinking only of Himself.......don't lose sleep or waste time over this one. You give him the freedom to do this to you.......girl wake up and smell the coffee!! Life is too short for these kinds of people in your life.
2006-08-21 09:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say let him go for a while. This will help him make a decision fast, they say you don't miss something until it's over or you don't have it anymore. you know? it will help him realize how much you mean to him, or if you mean anything to him.
2006-08-21 09:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by 10.95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling just try to wait it out if it was meant to be it will happen guys do get scared when we get close.
2006-08-21 09:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by tim s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say if he said he lost feeling for u ask him if he is positive and not that he is just saving u for a back up
2006-08-21 09:07:35 · answer #10 · answered by jackie06babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋