So many people on here are unhappily married, looking to cheat, wondering if they should stay or go...it's really sad. Good to hear from some happy people, makes us all realize it's possible.
2006-08-21 08:54:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People just need to grow up... another person isn't going to make them happier. They need to stop being scandalous and then good things might happen.
2006-08-21 09:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad....
But being unhappy in a marriage isn't always why people cheat.
Cheating can be an outlet for those who just aren't being fulfilled and perhaps they jumped into their marriage without thinking about what they really wanted in the first place.
I'm NOT saying that cheating is OK...there can be situation where a person just doesn't want out but needs more than what their partner is willing to give....
I have a partner who is only marginally interested in sex... she has given me 3 children and doesn't have the need she once had...
How does a person deal with this????
I could find a lover and cheat...but that would lead to lying to my partner...that can be ruinous to an otherwise good relationship....
Most woman can't understand the overwhelming need for sex that can at time be a plague for men...
Self control or manual stimulation are not what the sex act is about...the touching and the excitement are as much if not more of the experience than intercourse and climax...
It is sad, but it is also real.
2006-08-21 09:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by tincre 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes I think it's sad too. It makes you appreciate it when you've got someone really good in your life - because it is incredible what some people go through. I am so grateful for my husband - he is a real sweetheart and we've been married a year next month, known each other 3 years total. He's so kind-hearted and loving...and he makes me feel relaxed and happy. When I read the men these other women are dating, I am just shocked by their antics.
2006-08-21 09:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole thing makes me realize that the things in my life are not half as bad as other people. I appreciate my husband more. I can not believe the things that people put up with and the questions that they have to ask. My favorite ones are "in an abusive relationship, have three yr old who gets hit also, should I stay?" What are those people thinking? I really don't understand their mind set or why they are willing to put up with something like that. It is really sad..
2006-08-21 09:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do think it's sad. I posted something similar a week or so ago. I wish we could all figure out how to live with the people we choose, without suspicion, judgement, disrespect...etc. I love my husband very much and could never see either one of us being reduced to some of these things that people have done or been put through. I feel bad for all of those who are victims of the games that childish people play.
2006-08-21 09:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to believe in happy endings. I do know the most successful people who are older stayed married to the same person and did not let their selfishness interfere with a honest commitment. Marriage is a contract of honesty and trust. Respect and the ability to follow the rules you voluntary set up for yourself make happy and lifelong partners.
2006-08-21 09:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible. Marriages have their ups and downs, but 2 people who love one another and have open communication and the willingness to use it, can survive. Marriage is a two way street with give and take and consequences to every action or reaction. I think today that most people enter into it without much thought and use divorce as an "easy-out" to escape a bad situation that could've been avoided entirely had they thought things through.
2006-08-21 09:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by genetic_traitor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible to have a good marriage. My husband and I have been together for 21 years. We dated for 6 years (never lived together) and now we have been happily married for 15 years. Sometimes things get rough, but it's like that with anything. You get through it. Just remember to make some time for just the two of you and always, always, kiss him good-bye, goodnight and say "I love you" at least once a day.
2006-08-21 09:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always a sad situation when someone puts more effort into finding someone else then into making their own relationship better...I hope some listen to the advice that suggest stopping such heart breaking behavior.
2006-08-21 09:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad, but you have to also figure that people who are happy and have a good grip on their reality don't usually post questions on Yahoo answers. They're hugely under-represented here!
2006-08-21 09:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wasn't happy in my marriage but I never cheated.I finally got to the point where I had to make a dession so I did.And now that I have come to find out she had thought about asking for a divorce also.
2006-08-21 10:00:19 · answer #11 · answered by jeff402006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋