Any body else been molested?(see details please)?

Question

I was sexually abused by my uncle when I was 7 (I was fingered) and I was wondering if other people out there have had the same thing happen to them. If so how did you deal with it? How did you move on with life or did you stop trusting? I do not trust anybody any more. It was hard for my mom to even get me to say 'I love you' to my family members.
I was asking because I have to go to my cousins wedding in October and my uncle is going to be there. He is her dad he is going to be there and I am scared. HELP!!!!

probably should have said i already been to court for this. he was sentenced to a few years and i think something else but i don't think its being inforced to well. and yes i have to go to the wedding i'm a bridesmaid. i didn't know about his invite until i said i would be in the wedding.

Answer 1

Go, jsu tmake sure u r always with someone so he doesnt even try to get close to you. Try to avoid him but really he should be the one staying away form u sinc ethe shame is his. Just relax and try to ignore him.

U have to start trusting, you can tjudge everyone for one sick matha fuka. I dont judge all americans as ignorant just cuz a lot of them are...i always have hope some aren't

Answer 2

At same age an older male relative fondled my genitalia, nothing was said to anyone nor ever mentioned to him. I can't say I don't trust anyone it has made me very shy, less talkative and behind my back have the label "chip on my shoulder". It's just I'm afraid to be treated as a snob-yet that's the presentation every one sees. Solo masturbation has over taken my life and my wife doesn't suspect. Still have a cordial relationship with my relative. To use the word " I love you" to family members has been hard and is finally being said, I'm 50 years old now, haven't talked on the incident so long ago with relatives or friends yet and have no intention to start now. Still it's hard not knowing how they will react to it. At the wedding dance with your uncle, just to say hello and then tap another male on the shoulder on the dance floor and dance with him Enjoy the wedding. Remember it's your cousin's day let her remember it as a special day in her life. You are older now, the past is a book cover closed, leave it closed

Answer 3

Really you need to find something else to do on that day. Go out of town or something. You do not need to put yourself through all the drama that has happened in the past. In the future also stay as far as you can from this man. You are not going to accomplish anything other than stress and negative feelings if you attend this function. You have to move on in life, but stay away from this person at all costs.

Answer 4

I've been through the same thing but since I was 2-12 years old. I regret not having him locked up. You can never deal with it. I have a hard time trusting men. I still have nightmares about it. What I did is I got pills for depression, anxiety attacks ,and sleeping pills, but still doesnt help.It will always be in the back of your mind,And will always be over protective with your children.If my boyfriend wants to have sex with me in the middle of the night, he knows now to wake me up, cause I think it's my step father and I will start hitting. My mom knew and never did anything about it. I suggest that you do something about it so he doesn't ruin someone elseslife.

Answer 5

I feel bad that these things happen. Yes it did happen to me and when I told my parents I was 13 and will did a police report and still looking for him and well I went though alot. I went though counseling, but it didn't work for me. I can't even express myself I hate the fact that he took a part of me and now I feel like I will never get it back. It's hard but the only thing is let it out and join sports or activities so that you mind doesn't remember that. I haven't seen him since I was a little girl and we had learn lesions and we don't let no one live with us any more. If I was you I would think about it and see if I have the power to see him. Have you reported him already? That made me say no the guys who have asked me out and now that I wish to have one no one have asked me.

Answer 6

you can go to the wedding and not speak to him. just ignore him! I'm curious though did you tell anyone about the sexual abuse? because why is this asshole pervert pig at the wedding and not roting in some cell some where caring for his butt wounds that were caused by other inmates who know that he is a child molester! just curious :)

Answer 7

You need to seek God.. There is something in you that needs to be healed and only God can do that.. you can try to smoke weed or get drunk every day, but that will not help. You can't allow your cousin to suffer because her father is an As*&*(() hole.... You have to be strong and let him know that what he did, did not destroy you. You are strong and you are making it.. Go see someone. And tell you mother because you may not understand it but your mother is there for you. Tell your family because he may be doing it to someone else...

Answer 8

You should have called the police years ago. Tell your mom what happened and don't go to the wedding.

Answer 9

You mean he's out walking around and your mom knows what he did to you???? You need to tell the police and have him charged before he does it again to you or some one else. He needs help and so do you. There are organizations out there that can help, but don't let this guy lose to hurt someone else or you again.

Answer 10

Try to get professional help. Do you really have to go the wedding? I think it will be better if you avoid to go the wedding. It might get worst for you.

GOOD LUCK