It's a long story, but I have only just recently found out from a girl that I have been madly in love with for years that she has never felt anything in that way for me. She has always known how I have felt and for many reasons it was like a rollercoaster of emotions with her, sometimes thinking that she did like me, and then other times not. About 6 months ago things were going so well between us, and for many reasons I though something was going to become of it. It feels like the end of the world now. We had a bit of an argument about it aswell, so now am feeling so very low. It hurts so much when you get the impression someone likes you and then to find out after a long time that nothing was ever there. I love her so much. I am not angry with her about this. I do want her to be happy even if it means being without me, but at the same time it is so hard to take. I want to remain friends with her even if it is a sort of distant thing. I would hate to never see her again.
2006-08-21 08:51:58 · 11 answers · asked by Mr looking for answers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I believe that for a relationship to work then the couple should start as best friends. The only problem is when one half loves and the other half doesn't like the situation you are now in. I think you need time and space away from this girl to heal your heart and to start moving on with your life. Explain to her that you hope in the future to be able to be her friend but at the moment being her friend is painful to you. She should understand and as your friend support your decision. Do not go away with the hope that you may get back together - go away in the belief that you won't - that way you will move on with your life eventually.
2006-08-25 04:58:08 · answer #1 · answered by geegee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing you have to realise, and this takes a lot of time is that actually she isn't your 'perfect match' because whilst she has got all the things you think you are looking for she doesn't want to be with you. Its harsh and it hurts but you have to face the truth here for your own sake. Only when you admit you need to move on can you start to recover emotionally and then eventually move on. I would suggest its better not to see her for a while as this will make it harder for you and it will take longer for you to recover. Remember, you've spent a long time thinking about being with her and generally the further into the future you've pictured yourself being with someone the longer it takes to get over them. Keep strong, let your friends and family support you and keep yourself busy, healthy and active. Good luck and you will feel better.
2006-08-21 09:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by seaside_girl_03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know this is hard but the problem with your wanting to stay friends right now is that your still in love with this girl and you still are hoping some how things will change. You need to end this relationship completely for awhile until you can get your life moving forward. Once you can honestly date other people and stop thinking about her as the one then maybe you can be friends.
2006-08-21 09:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in your girls posistion for a really long time. Sometimes I loved him sometimes I hated him. If she does still love you then she will tell you. Girls don't like to keep there feelings bottled up.
Just talk to her. She will think you are manly and brave to talk to a girl like that. Ask her opinions. Most guys wait for the girl to make the move. Cool down and then talk to her! If she doesn't like you then there will be others and try not to keep down in the blues. Stay happy and active with school, sports, friends etc!
2006-08-21 09:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with most people here, if I were in your place i'd speak to her and tell her how you feel... but tell her if she doesn't feel the same way about you you'll need some space to move on.
You need time to heal and realise that you can move on. If she is a true friend she'll understand and your friendship can get back on track when you feel better... and you will feel better!
2006-08-21 09:49:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kayla 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is that you need space here and now. Probably for a good while and then let things occur as they may.
2006-08-21 11:29:51 · answer #6 · answered by Felidae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she's your friend so you already have all that you need for a kind and loving friendship alright! Don't worry just accept things as they are!
2006-08-21 09:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard but yes things may work out and you get back together you never know don't give up
2006-08-21 09:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by tim s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to move on maybe in time you will be able to be friends.
2006-08-21 08:59:08 · answer #9 · answered by Dorrie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Amazing, this sounds so similar to my situation.
2006-08-21 18:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋