so my Boyfriends cousin, when he got married, didnt ask my boyfriend to be in their wedding ( mind we all 4 used to be inseperatable) the wife asked me to be a bridesmaid and i was-
later she told me that the reason the cousin didnt ask my boyfreind was because they werent close anymore ( we had move only the year before 6 hours away) we still hang out with them, and they come and visit us, do you think i should do the same to them? not have my boyfriends cousin in the wedding ?
2006-08-21 08:50:58 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you want them there then invite them. If not, don't. It is you and your fiance's day, and holding grudges will ruin it for you. Just go with what your heart wants. Congratulations :)
2006-08-21 08:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. Do you want to fix the rift between them? If so, then I wouldn't do the same thing. If you ask them both then they might start feeling bad and may end up apologizing. Friends have disagreements but still stay friends. Guys also tend to not keep in touch quite as much as we do. Ya know what I mean? It's just the way they are. It really depends on if you want the group close again or not. Besides, you'd be the better people to invite them both to be in the wedding.
2006-08-21 15:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that decision should be based soley on the relationship now. Don't base the decision on getting even. That way you are making the choice FOR your wedding and it will be just the way the two of you want it without a dark cloud over your day because of what they did with their wedding. If you play into that it will overshadow your happy day!! Start things off right! Best wishes!
2006-08-21 16:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wedding should not be used as a tool for getting back at someone. Your wedding is a time for you and your soon to be husband to publicly commit the rest of your life together. You should have the people in your wedding that you want to be there because their presence at your wedding will make it a special day for you. It should not matter if you or anyone else was in their wedding or not. That was their wedding, this is your wedding.
2006-08-21 16:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Josie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would say that it is something that only you and your fiance can answer that question. If you feel that you would seriously like him in the wedding, then speak to the love of your life and work something out. If he says NO right away then you know your answer. But....if you feel strongly about having in the wedding, explain that to him and see what his final answer is. Go with what you feel! And....HAVE A GREAT WEDDING DAY. Dont let something small ruin it for you girl!
2006-08-21 16:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by c_69_2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should ask the people you want to be in your wedding to help you celebrate. People you trust and love and do not let it become political or biased due to things that have previously occurred. Obviously, your boyfriend was hurt by the slight. Let it go and move on to your happy day and future.
2006-08-21 15:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would be nice to just send him an invitation. If he chose not to go, then he won't go, but leave that in his hands. That way, they can't say that you're playing payback or are still holding that grudge. And that would just futher separate their relationship. Just send him an invitation, you should be the one who is bigger. If he wants to go then he should, by right, be able to come, but if he doesn't then that's his choice. In the future, they can't turn their backs and say "well, you didn't invite me to your wedding either!"
2006-08-21 15:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you decide if you want them involved because of how you value the friendship, dont let getting even be the reason of your decision
in the end this time its your wedding do what you feel is right and don't let anyone tell you different.
2006-08-21 16:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask or don't ask whomever you want. It's petty and immature to use wedding party decisions as some kind of social punishment or payback.
2006-08-21 15:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding. Your dream day. Live your dream, not someone elses.
I only had my brother and my husbands sister in the wedding and that's what I wanted. I loved it!~
2006-08-21 16:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree...be the bigger person and ask them both to be in the wedding. Who knows, it might also help strengthen your friendship once again.
2006-08-21 17:06:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋