My boyfriend, that I live with, told me he was going out with his two friends (who are girls) and didn't invite me, and was gone from lunch time to almost 11pm. He said he was just spending time with them because one of them is moving away. Would you be mad?
2006-08-21 08:47:42 · 34 answers · asked by contra_z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he didn't tell me that he was going to be spending that much time with them, then yes, i'd be mad that he didn't have the common courtesy to call and let you know. But if he said they were going to be out then I wouldn't be mad at him, maybe a little bothered that he didn't invite me, especially if you have met the two girls. How long have you guys been together? If you are really serious in your relationship then you need to figure what your both wanting.
2006-08-21 08:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
-First off u have 2 ask yourself how much u trust him. Has he ever given u a reason to doubt him? If the answer is no, sit down with him and let him know that next time he should invite u, dont make it a big deal, if u do he might get upset & actually do something stupid. Men are fickle, the last thing u want is to push him away! Let him know that ur not acussing him of anything, but u would really be interested in accompanying him to say goodbye to friends. -Also keep in mind that this one late night is just that, a one time thing, if it becomes more frequent, then u got a problem, if not...chill. Sometimes we worry about what could be, and men are not even lucid half of the time.. LOL. Good Luck, Sweety!!!
2006-08-21 08:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Nay Nay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends, when did he tell you he would be back? Why didnt' he ask you to go? Do you know these girls? Is one of them a girl that he was once romantically involved with? Oh scrap all that hec yes I'd be mad. In fact I wouldn't have been there when he brought his butt home. However, if you really want to make your point here what you need to do is give him a taste of his own medicine. On a topic like this a guy will find ways to excuse his behavior and make any argument about it your fault. You will most likely, find that it is NOT ok with him if you do the same thing. What you need to do is hang out with some guy friends, (if you don't have guy friends make them up, all that matters is that he believes you are out with a guy friend) stay out late and when he whines about it you say oh wait a minute I thought this was the way we treated each other, its certainly the way you treat me. If its ok for him then its ok for you and if its not ok with him then you know he's bs'n you about his day with the girls. Besides if you don't stick up for yourself now you will just put up with more and more of this. Handling it this way means you don't have to say a word about it but he will learn that you will give back as good as you get from him and if what he is giving is bad he will get that back too so he'll quit giving bad, and he'll quit assuming that he can make you feel bad and you'll just take it. You teach people how to treat you. Men don't 'get it' when what they hear are words, but actions they understand clearly. Trust me it will work! This tact has changed things dramatically in my relationship after a year and a half of just hoping he'd do the right thing just because its the right thing. Didn't happen though, however, as soon as he got back as good as he was giving things changed dramatically and now he's just as sweet as anyone could be.
2006-08-21 09:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad because it is about respect. Two females? One guy? Gone from lunch till dark? No invite? He is leaving room for questions and insecurities! You have a right to be mad!
2006-08-21 09:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd be mad! Did he tell you the "friends" were girls?
I dated a guy (and lived with him) and he used to go out with "friends" too. I later found out that they weren't just "friends".
I'm dating a wonderful guy now, and I can tell the difference between "friends" because my new b.f. doesn't yell at me for asking him questions about them. Presumably because he has nothing to hide.
Go with your gut on this one, but if he gets defensive, there's a reason...
2006-08-21 08:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by Honey Bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends really. is he close friends with them? cos iv got a boyfriend but my best friend is a boy so i spend time with him alone. my boyfriend don't ask questions or get jealous of me being with him on my own. i evan go out with my best friend just being the two of us last year we went on holiday together just me and him. i think its all down to trust u should talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel about being left out. i no it don't really answer ur question but I'm just saying it from another point of view. so you can see that a relationship can still work if ur partner has a best friend of the opposite sex and wants to spend time alone with her.
2006-08-21 09:09:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, as long as you trust him, nothing to worry about. Would you feel that it was ok to do the same thing and just go somewhere with your two guy friends and him wait for you? If you think he wouldn't be mad at you either, then its all good. there has got to be trust!
2006-08-21 08:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he came and talk to me about it and I was there awake to see him and get to talk to him then I wouldn't get mad, but if he seem like he was doing something wrong I would talk to him and see what happen or what can I do to fix things up.
Don't get mad just talk to him you'll know if he's telling the truth or not.
2006-08-21 08:56:21 · answer #8 · answered by Gloria (Madison) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should trust your man. If one of them is moving away then you haveing nothing to worry about. Give him some freedom...all guys need that...
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2006-08-21 08:54:18 · answer #9 · answered by Brittany B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah because I know he would never let me go any place with a guy friend...Why didn't he inivite you... I mean if he lives with you, do you know the friends, do you trust them.... Hell yeah I would be mad.. Do you trust your man? If you trust him then hes a butthead for leaving you out. But its all on you girl.. good luck .
2006-08-21 09:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋