People are nowdays choosing to have their first children considerably later than one or two decades ago. The reasons may vary from financial issues to the lack of desire of having kids early. For those who know that they will eventually create families time becomes a pressing issue. So when then is the best age for people to have their first children?
2006-08-21 08:47:15 · 72 answers · asked by Avillo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
20 and up
2006-08-21 08:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Whitney P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe it's up to the person who is having the kids. I had my first child when I was 18...6 months ago!! I'm having a blast. My husband and I felt we were financially stable and we are. I understand why people would want to have children later...a lot of people have this impression that children cost a lot and that they are a burden. I find it to be the complete opposite...yes, we spend one-hundred dollars more on my son a month but it's not as much as we expected. We expect to spend like three hundred. And as for my son being a burden...I'd trade partying for a night home playing with him any day! Like I said before I don't think it's a set age...it's what the individual is up to.
2006-08-21 09:08:04 · answer #2 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to listen to your body and look at the big picture. What do you see yourself doing in one year, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years... I was 21 when I had my first son and my husband was 26 to us, we were WAY to young and we lived very far away from any family and friends that it made it very difficult. We have an awesome 8 year old son now but the infant toddler years were rough. We're expecting our 2nd baby in just a few weeks. I am 29 now and my husband is 34 and we are much more prepared (possibly because we know what we're in for ;) ) But we also have more patience and understanding and and of the childish insecurities and selfishness that we might have had when we were younger has long gone. I think you need to look at what type of person you are as well and see if you have any growing and maturing to do before you bring a life into the world.
2006-08-29 01:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by rachel_renee_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think after the age 25 but before 35. You're young enough to accept the change in your life without questioning it and missing your old life of freedom and money but old enough to have had enough free time and party days and not feel gyped of your youth. When are you ever prepared to leave the life you're living and start a whole new one? Never. But from what I've seen, the older you are the harder it is on you and your marriage unless you weren't that social in the first place. I have yet to have seen any of my friends or co-workers who waited until there 40's to have kids, adjust to the change in their lives very well. There seems to be open resentment towards the husbands and self righteousness amongst the wives. The younger you are the more, I think, your marriage can adapt because you haven't had a lot of time to develop habits that are hard to give up.
2006-08-27 20:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by chrissheather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no best age you have your children when you are ready to.
Not everyone is ready when they are young and some don't want to have them when they are older.
I'm having my first at 34 (I'llbe a week off my 35th birthday when he's born). I married at 22 but spent 10 years with a man who didn't want children. Despite trying I never got pregnant with him. I left him and met my BF, and we started trying. It took us over 2 years to get pregnant. We were told it wasn't going to happen and we'd need IVF, but then a miracle occurred and I got pregnant naturally for the first time in my life.
I feel ready now at 34. To some extent I think its taken me this long to get to a stage where I was not constantly thinking about myself and my own ambitions. As for energy, well up tilla few months ago I was working a 40 hour week plus dancing 7-8 hours a week so thats not a problem. I don't feel "old" in anyway.
My boyfriend is younger than me (23) so its not even as though my child will have two "old fogey" parents (and 35 is not an old fogey anyway.
My mum had me at 36 and my brother at 42. And her mother had three children at 36, 38 and 40!! No problems with the pregnancies, deliveries and all very healthy babies! I weighed nearly 9 pounds and my brother was 8. We were really fit babies who impressed the doctors caring for us, despite being born to an "older" mum!!
In contrast, my BF's mum had him at the "young" age of 19 and he was a really sickly, underweight, premature baby who had everyting wrong with him, needed emergency major surgery and was not expected to survive despite being born to a "young" mother (so by conventional reasoning he should have been healthier than me who was born to an "older" one!)!
BF's mum's kids did not have a very settled life at all and I think she was way too young.
Now at 43 she's disabled and practically wheelchair bound, so she has less mobility and will be less able to play with her grandchild than my 70 year old mother who is as sprightly as anything!!!
So this idea that you "have" to have your kids in the your teens or twenties is rubbish. Everyone is different.
Besides which, people live longer and stay active for longer today. 50 years ago 62 might have been considered "old" and "decrepit" but most 62 year olds today are still running around living active lives. And medical care has progressed so much from what it was many years ago. People need to move with the times.
2006-08-22 05:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
25+
2006-08-29 00:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by anna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Early 30's, late 20's. Your life as you know it ends, get the travel and fun part and all the sleeping you love to do done first. Kids are 24/7 for the rest of your life... It's like a horror movie that won't end even when you are too tired to watch it anymore.
2006-08-27 17:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by oneblondepilgrim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a wman has made some key decisions about the direction of her life and gotten the necessary education. Ideally, to take advantage of peak fertility, this is sometime in the early twenties. It also depends on how many children you'd like to have. If you want seven, you'll need to start a little sooner than of you only want one!
2006-08-21 09:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they are married and ready. There is no correct age. Some start at 18, 23, 30, 40. All these ages can work. It depends on where you want to be in life when you begin your family.
2006-08-21 09:05:05 · answer #9 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think from 18 up to about 30 is the best age range to have children
2006-08-21 08:56:16 · answer #10 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋