several yrs ago i was with a friend at the mall & she was going to get her hair cut, there were two guys taking the names & info one was a really tall guy, he was wearing a guys shirt, jeans & even had stubble but had long finger nails and tweezed eyebrows well when he gave us the appt. time we said thank you sir (we were raised in the south) & thats when he seemed to get really angry. we didn't mean to offend him just being respectful. things went from bad to worse, i had just leaned over to my friend & pointed to how he was holding the other persons hair out to cut it when he glanced over at us, i guess he thought we were talking bad about him, i tried being nice several times but he seemed really angry & abrupt with us. my friend got her haircut, we paid, tipped & left...the strange thing is i began to run into this guy all the time afterwards, 3 different malls 4 different times...each time i smiled said hello and tried to be nice to him but he was even angrier(see the rest below)
2006-08-21 08:41:25 · 10 answers · asked by sammie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
cutting me nasty looks etc. i didn't want to approach him to try and explain cause he seemed so angry...i have felt bad all these yrs cause i really didn't mean to hurt his feeling by implying he was a man if he feels he's not. i found out later he's a transvestite & works at some club in atlanta and maybe he's just used to pple making fun of him but i truly didn't mean too and it bothered me alot that he thought i did. the thing is it really doesn't matter to me either way who someone is or loves & i would never intentionally hurt anyone's feelings like that. i guess there's nothing i can do though cause its been over a yr since i've seen him but i guess i hoped he might be on these boards & see this & know i never meant to hurt him....why this is so important to me, i don't know, i guess its because i don't like to hurt others...anyway, thanks for listening....
2006-08-21 08:46:32 · update #1
thank you david..
2006-08-21 08:51:28 · update #2
i didn't point at him, i pointed at the way he was pulling the hair out to cut it to show my friend how the right way to layer it.. i know pointing is rude but it wasn't at him
2006-08-21 08:55:45 · update #3
thank you all for being so nice....
2006-08-21 08:56:25 · update #4
jon x... what a gentleman...and i mean that the best way possible...you helped me a lot...thank you
2006-08-21 08:58:00 · update #5
It is unfortunate that this person was a jerk to you. It sounds as though you were completely polite and quite charming. His insecurities however seem to have gotten the best of him. He frankly sounds as though he was stuck up. Sadly they exist in every strata of life, Gay, Str8, Christian, Jew etc. Everyone knows someone who can be a jerk. It is good that you handled it the best you could, but don't let one persons nasty get the better of you, many people, myself included try to live life and treat others as we wish to be treated. Think no more on it and just be as you are. For the record I am a gay man who thinks you're quite the lady.
2006-08-21 08:56:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's seriously bothering you, I think the prospect of making it up to this one individual is unlikely. You could, however, get more educated and involved in the issues. Maybe this person will end up seeing you at a political or pride rally and think about what really happened. And if not, you're helping to pave the way so that in the future, other people won't have to feel all kinds of bitter / angry / defensive.
2006-08-21 15:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is baggage you can put down. You were not intending to be rude or hurt his feelings, after realizing that you did you attempted to make amends, numerous times. There is nothing more you can do at this point. Sometimes we just have to forgive ourselves and then move on with life.
2006-08-21 09:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are SO cool to hang on to that for so long. What a nice person you are!
If you know where this person might be working now, maybe send a letter?
I don't know....but I sure look up to people like you!
2006-08-21 08:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jake 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did what you could. If this guy feels compelled to act like a jackass because you were trying to be polite, that's his problem, not yours. Just keep being nice. Most other people will respond positively.
2006-08-21 08:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey get over it, that person is just way to into himself and cares way to much about what other people think, he thinks its all about him obviously, the only thing that matters is that you know that your a good person and didn't do anything wrong
2006-08-21 08:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by AFwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop obsessing
he was a stranger. who cares if he doesnt like you. You werent trying to make fun of him so if he is going to hate you because he misinterpreted you, then he doesnt deserve your respect. you did what you could and if he isnt willing to see that then it is his problem
2006-08-21 08:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by stevepuff19 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have pointed,thats really rude. You should have told him how you felt. If you don't explain to him what really happened of course hes going to assume you were talking crap about him.
2006-08-21 08:54:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can't win them all...just keep doing good and avoid evil.
2006-08-21 08:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Just David 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a good listener.
2006-08-21 08:51:24 · answer #10 · answered by angelo26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋