How much more can a person take?

Question

I am currently 27 1/2 weeks pregnant with my second child, a girl this time, to be named Emma. I have a four year old son from a previous relationship (dad has nothing to do with him and doesn't pay the child support.) , and a wonderful fiance who tries so hard to take care of both of us. I have been out of work for the last four weeks which has put an obvious strain on all of our resources. We can't at this point even afford to put food on the table. My car broke down today. Everything is crashing down at once, and I don't know how much more I can take. I've been through bad times before, but never this bad. I can't even get the County to call me back to try to get some support through them, and unless you're already recieving food stamps or some other such thing, you can't even go to the local food bank. I have no fight left in me and my faith is dwindling. Does God listen to our prayers? Will it ever get better? When is it okay to just through up your arms and just say, I give up?

P.S (Especialy to someone like tony_busy), Unfortunately, I have been rendered unable to work very unexpectedly. Had I made it until the time this baby would be ready to be born, we would be fine financially. For me to go back to work risks the life of my unborn child and myself. So, before you lecture, before you judge, take a good long look in the mirror. The person you see staring back at you isn't perfect either. For the rest of you, thank you for caring and thank you for not judging me.

Answer 1

Please contact me with information as to where you live and I'll personally find the right folks who can help you.

The name of the city or town and state will be enough information to get the ball rolling. I'll contact you when I have the answers, but it should take me a full day or so.......

Hang in there and don't give up, you hear?

Answer 2

First off I am deeply sorry for your troubling times. Having been there and back again I know how you are feeling. Things will seem hopeless for a long while. Yes there is some fight left in you because if there wasnt you would not have posted a question. God helps those who help themselves. And yes it will eventually get better. Have you tried looking for another job even as silly as delivering newspapers??? You have to look at all your resources before giving up. Take what you can. And keep on calling that Government back because you are one of the many that really need help to survive.
Its never okay to just give up on anything. By giving up, you are also giving up on your children. It is hard to remain strong in a seemingly hopeless situation, but thats why God made women tough as we are. We are the backbone of a house hold. We hold the ship together. If we dont have our strength what do we have?? You can pull though this if you believe you can. Like i said look at ALL your options. You are in my prayers!

Answer 3

Dont ever give up! I promise you, it will get better, it has to. Just take it a day at a time and if the county wont call you back, go sit in their waiting room until you're acknowledged. Perhaps your fiance can work extra overtime until after the baby's born and you can get work. But no matter what, realize that you have a wonderful family and nothing will ever take that away. Pray and never give up. Even if you don't fully believe, the prayers will get things off your chest. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 4

When I was 12 weeks pregnant I was 17 I was living in my mom's car (my mom is a drug addict) I borrowed $500 from my best friend who was also 17 at the time. Lived in motels for a while and then got an apartment with my mom which we were kicked out after 2 months, finally got into a low income apartment, I had my daughter and had no car, I took her to her dr appts by riding the bus, I was on welfare for 3 months and then got a job...being stupid i quit my job without another one and had to turn in my cans for a refund to buy diapers, i had to be on a giving tree for my daughter to get clothes because i had none, children found needles and drugs in the apts i lived and the neighbor killed a baby while she was high...i worked 7 days a week double shifts at a convienence store and made $7 an hour...after about a year i moved and started school..got a car, worked 40-50 hrs a week and things started getting better, i met my husband and we got our own place, i got a better job, he got a better job...we finally moved to washington--we have 2 cars a beautiful house 2 fantastic kids and we're happy and secure........... i guess the moral of my story is that i CAN feel your pain..the hopelessness the feeling that you will never get better....i still live paycheck to paycheck, i still get down about bills and debt but my family loves me and i work hard every day...i am in that middle ground too where i can't buy a lot of food or pay all the bills but i make to much to get help for anything..do your very best...get a shitty job if you have to for the time being and work until you have the baby...it WILL get better every year we make more money..every year we have more that we have done together as a family...i grew up with no food and thrift store clothes, i left home at 15 but it got better, i don't know if i beleive in god but i do believe in working hard and believing in yourself and your fiance...i'm sorry that it's hard..i'm sorry that you are in the place that you are but it will get better and if you give up think about what you've taught your children!

Answer 5

Don't give up hope. God will answer your prayers. Can you go to your family for help? Churches in your area may be able to help provide food for your family. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Alright... I have to say this to the people being rude. Sometimes things happen in your life that you can't control. Have you ever thought she may not have had enough time to save the money to be off or it was unexpected to be off. Just because people don't have a million dollars in the bank doesn't mean they can't have children. Do these people think that only the rich should have children? Well I can say this for all of the middle to lower class people... I will teach my children the value of love far out weighs the value of a dollar!

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear about your downfalls. Usually, when things get at their worst, they DO work themselves out. Somehow. I can't explain how, but they just do. I live in Ontario, Canada, and I know that up here you don't need to be receiving anything special to get help from the food banks. Just proof of income, or no income, where you live and ID. What about the churches there? The ones here will assist with food vouchers, bus tickets, and an ear to bend. You don't even have to attend on a regular basis. The main church group that helps people in need here is called, St. Vincent De Paul Society. You could make extra money over the internet, maybe, or if you have to, go door to door and ask people for their empty beer bottles, so you can return them for a refund. We Canadians are helpful to one another in times like yours. Don't you have any family to help you out? My advise would be to try the churches. Good luck to you and keep your chin up! Love will prevail!!

Answer 7

It is NEVER okay to give up!! These things are just tests.Yes,GOD answers prayers,just not in our time,but always on time.Your life was okay before you stopped working,now you have to go through some rough times so that when your rise again(and you will) you will appreciate it that much more.Just take a deep breath.Satan wants you to give up andquestion GOD.All to cause stress so that you might lose your baby.Don't give him the satisfaction.Tell GOD how you feel and believe that HE hears you and KNOWS what he is doing.If you have to eat some humble pie,put your pride aside until things get better.....do it!!!! Go to your local DHS and apply for assistance until things get better.I know it can be embarrassing,but nothing is embarrasing about needing to feed your family.You don't have to get on welfare or anything,just get the food stamps.Times can't always be good.Without the rain,how would we appreciate the sun.Just be patient,do what you can,and let GOD handle the rest.

Answer 8

They say it always gets worse before it gets better. It is never okay to just throw your arms up and give up when you have other people to think about like your child. Keep your head up becuase things are bound to get better. I believe he listens and when he feels that you cannot take anymore he will then decide what to do. Until then just believe that he would not throw anything at you that you could not handle. Everyone goes through those times where it just seems like it cannot get worse but always know there is someone out there that has it worse. Good luck!

Answer 9

You guys will be fine. I know it is hard to believe right now, but you will. Is there anyway that you could work part time a few days a week to help out? Could your finance get another part time job. I know it would be hard on him, but if it is only temporary, it will help pay the bills for now. If you guys do not need 2 cars, maybe you could sell yours, is there a warranty on your car? Do you have any parents or family that can loan you guys s few thousand until the baby comes? Stay positive, I know it is hard, but the additional stress is not good for you or the baby.

Answer 10

Ugh, I am so sorry. That is truly an ordeal. Yes, God listens to all our prayers, even in our darkest hours when we think all hope is lost. Do you belong to a church? That's a good place to start. Tell the pastor what you're going through. Good luck and don't give up

Answer 11

Expect being lectured on this one!

What are you doing having another child if you can't even afford being out of work for ONLY four weeks????????????? It is obvious that you can't even afford the little one that you currently have if you can't "put food on the table".

Being able to afford to have children does not mean that you have to buy them designer clothes or start saving for their college education the day they are born. What it means is to be able to afford the basics: food, clothing, shelter and hopefully proper medical care.

If I were you, I'd pray like you have never prayed before. Pray for God to give you the strength to get off of you lazy a s s and find a solution to your current situation.

I don't sympathize with you. I pray you put your child(ren) first and find resolution to the cards you have currently been dealt.

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