The last time I heard from my boyfriend was on Frid. I have called him a couple of times & even left V. messages & Text msgs and still no respond. He is 36 yrs old & has a 15 yr old kid.. so he is not a little kid to play phone games. We were doing really great & even remodelling his house for me 2 move in with my child. What should I do. I def stopped calling him. Im thinking of going over 2 his house to pickup my things, since i think he dumped me. I just don't understand why. He's a great guy & I really felt in love with him. What should I do? Should I just wait till he calls me. i called his job yesterday, 2 find out if he went to work, @ least that will tell me he's still alive and I'll feel better. He was working.. Should I give him time, maybe he's busy. but why would he ignore my calls & wont even return my messages?
2006-08-21 08:35:23 · 19 answers · asked by DrEamCaTcHeR!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the relationship was 4 months, He was the 1 who proposed for me to move in his house with my daughter. He treated me like a princess. until frid that I have not heard anything from him.
2006-08-21 09:39:40 · update #1
He could be busy, or something could have come up.
Or he could just be dense.
Or he could just be pushing back. It sounds like you're all over this guy and I know I need my space, else I react just like him. I hate being smothered and like to do things on my own. I'll what I mean and mean what I say, but give me my space!
Those things aside, if it's not one of those, then he's sending you signals like guys send signals. Not that I condone it, but he may be ignoring you and hoping you'll go away. Nonconfrontational, and the ez way out.
2006-08-21 08:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by Yada Yada Yada 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 3 answers that you have already received sound like something that you would do if you were a couple of teenagers, or had just met.
But, it sounds like your relationship was more than that - especially if you both have children and he was remodeling your house for you and your child to move into.
Was he supposed to move in with you also? How long have you been going together? Was your relationship serious (on both ends as far as you could tell)? Was it a mature relationship - as in had you in the past been able to work out your differences? Do you truly believe that he loves/loved you. Did he act serious toward you regarding your relationship?
It is hard to try to give you a good answer unless you give more information and insight into the whole picture - more aspects of your relationship.
2006-08-21 15:55:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would just stop calling and go over to his house and find out what's going on . Be calm and not defensive, something that you don't know about might be going on. Listen to what he tells you and give him the benefit of the doubt then depending on what was said, make the appropriate decisions. You are owed an explanation and are entitled to know. In the mean time stay calm and relaxed and think positive thoughts. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-21 15:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... sounds like the guy is 1 busy and 2 maybe getting cold feet around you. Give him space but leave him a message asking him to call you back and that you are currious to know what is going on. Friday was not that long ago.
2006-08-21 15:49:37 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time.......whatever the case. Maybe he has "dumped" u, for want of a better word. Maybe he's preoccupied, something on his mind.....
You have done what u could, ie. checked to see if he's fine, which apparently he is. Now leave him alone for a while. Wait & see what happens. Maybe he'd want to talk to u in a few days/weeks, even if only to ask you to collect your stuff!
Don't worry, i know its easier said than done, but you cant do much for now.
If he's avoiding you, for whatever reasons, and doesn't have the guts to talk it out, then he's no good anyway. You will know soon enough.
2006-08-21 15:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by saltnsaffron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely go over to get your things but try to make sure you are calm...don't want an argument in front of the kids. You deserve closure and at least he should be able to give it to you. Maybe he was busy or maybe he is ignoring you, all you can do right now is guess. If possible try to set a time to meet and gather your items. You deserve closure!!!!
2006-08-21 15:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown woman I am assuming, If this is true start acting like it. maybe he is just busy, maybe something wrong with his phone, maybe something with 15 year old, anything could have happened. Go over and see him, don't get an attitude. If he don't want to see you he will tell you but if everything was OK Friday it is probably still OK.
2006-08-21 15:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go over to his house when you know he's there and tell him you're picking up your things. If he asks why tell him you're too mature to play games and if something's bothering him he needs to tell you instead of ignoring you. That'll give him the message that you don't want to be jerked around and hopefully he'll talk or you will at least find out if he's a loser.
2006-08-21 15:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by spaniel_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from past experience, once a guy stopped answer your calls that mean he have someone else . all i know that he too chicken to let you know he seeing someone else. also once the new relationship doesn't work out then he come back to you. i don't know if this is the case but if you want to be correct follow your instinct. go to his house and talk to him face to face and ask him why haven't he answer any of your calls. good luck!!!
2006-08-21 15:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by samdrian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, sometimes I hate all the phone calls unless its something really important. Calling just to bullshit drives me crazy.....and the text messages....all they do is run my battery down.
Maybe the guys phone is broken.? Go to his house and see him...its the only way and maybe he will explain.
2006-08-21 15:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by dd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋