He told me he was single he had been married 1x & he had kids with 2 diffrent women, that they were just good friends now.I believed him & we started going out. We have been 2gether for 2yrs. & we have a 4 month boy. He has his own business so he used to tell me he was going out of town for business. But not to long ago I moved to another 1 of his houses with him. I found out about a week ago he did marry both of them & that he still lives with 1 of them at the same time he is living with me. I have talked to him about going our diffrent ways but he says he can't be without me or his son that we are his life & he loves us. He wants me to move to Oregon with him but I found some emails from his "wife" where they have been looking for a house in Oregon 2. My point is he has lied to me cheated on me with many diffrent women ( by the way he doesn't know I know this,I just found out) I AM LEAVING HIS ***. Why does he still want me around when he can stay with his "wife" and get some1new?
2006-08-21 08:31:28 · 16 answers · asked by Sad&Lonely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
P.S. I think I might be pregnant again... That is another thing I don't get from him..He says he wants a family with me..But why does he want all these kids if he doesn't want to settle down..But he can stay ALONE..I don't care anymore
2006-08-21 10:16:19 · update #1
Because he is a user, good for you get out and get out fast.
2006-08-21 08:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many so called "men" are actually existing by living in a dream world and are using a "boys" ideal of what life really is. You will never be number one in his life, even though you have a child together. He is a liar and a cheat, and will continue to be one; he does not know how to be a real man and only be with one woman. His real ego is far too fragile for this and he just needs multiple assurances of his "manliness." He is actually very insecure and childlike so he has to have some type of attention from multiple partners. He has cheated on you, and treated you and your child in a deplorable manner. He also has cheated with you, and so you can easily see the pattern. You need to find yourself a real, adult man who is going to want to be with you and only you. Unless you are willing to share a man, you deserve more; a real relationship with trust and honor and honesty and respect. You have none of these qualities with this man. He is only building up his non-existant ego with the multiple wives and partners. This is the time to leave, and be proud of yourself for doing so. Most men dream about having multiple sexual partners, but do not actually live like this. Go forward with your life without him and make a good life for yourself and your baby. Good luck and have a good day!
2006-08-21 15:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cos he`s greedy selfish and insecure. He needs to feel wanted by 2 or more women. If you and the little boy are his "life" then he has to finish with all the other women. But I dont think he`s going to do that now. So you can either share him or kick his a*** into touch and bugger off!
2006-08-21 15:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by The BudMiester 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get as far away from him as possible, let him move to Oregon you go to Italy if you have to. He is seriously sick. Keep yourself and your child safe from him. Take as much evidence as you can to support your claim. He won't sue for custody, can't put his other 2 women in jeopardy. If you can contact them, do so, with as much evidence as you can. Didn't you watch the Lacy Peterson coverage, my goodness what a creep!
And he still wants you around because he's been getting away with all this lying and betrayal, it's a game to him. I wouldn't even confront him, get yourself to a safe place.
2006-08-21 17:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by trix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fool yourself into thinking you have a chance. Everything you have has been built on lies and deceit and you were deceived.
What he did was ruined your life and you have a son as a result. I say move on and raise your son to be a decent young man who respect and cherish the female race.
Your son is a victim of his double life of deceit and you need to make sure you do all possible to maintain a healthy environment to live in with him.
He want you around the same way he has kept all others around so he can keep maintaining his current situation and once he have you and the others aboard, he will keep sailing on as usual and you will be miserable in the process trying to keep up with the waves and the wind because he don't know which way he is blowing.
2006-08-21 15:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
control, greed, selfishness, and it might be because he's a giant male organ...... you are right for leaving him, think about your son, do you want him growing up to treat women the same way daddy does. Sounds like he's addicted to sex and cheating and he will never change... get out... go far away.. .find yourself someone worth while
2006-08-21 15:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by rachael 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sumthin is wrong with him. He is insecure and deperately needs to feel loved and attention and 1 woman doesn't offer him enuff, so the sick bastard has 2,3,4, or however many it takes. Yes, move on, and do it quickly before your son picks up on these traits.
2006-08-21 16:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by foxxyy44u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, leave his but high and dry. Some men get off on the fact that they have the gift of GAB and can persuade women to do what they want. You and your son are worth more than 2nd place. have someone with you when you tell him that your leaving......be careful. This loser is defiantly blocking your blessings. God has someone waiting to take good care of you and your son. YOU CAN DO IT HONEY !!!!!!!!!!! TO HELL WITH THAT JERK!!!!!!
2006-08-21 15:45:30 · answer #8 · answered by Lady-Dragonfly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's a loser that's what it is, he needs women around him, lots and lots of women to make his miserable life more exciting, yes, he has cheated you many times and while it's still early, decide for you and your son, leave him. or better yet make an ultimatum, make him choose, you or the other one. he has to choose just ONE.
2006-08-21 15:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by dede 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not... sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. Tell the wife you exhist and let her know about your child... run from that unless you always want to be the other woman.
2006-08-21 15:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he has serious issues.... he also thinks he can continue to get away with his bs since he has been able to do so for so long. Good luck.
2006-08-21 16:05:54 · answer #11 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋