Why is it that very smart people are often rude. Why is it that very smart people are often reserved????

Answer 1

Well, if they're truly that smart, maybe they've become arrogant as well. Perhaps if they're really intelligent, they get frustrated with all of us with average intelligence.

Answer 2

My husband is incredibly intelligent and can also be extremely rude. I've thought and thought about it, and I think it's because extremely intelligent people think about EVERYTHING and thus, they believe they have worked out the best possible solution to every given situation.

Because they KNOW they are right, they find it very difficult to understand that others can't figure it out, too, even as they conceed that not everyone is smart enough to do so.

This makes them very frustrated... think politics and religion, neither of which is rational and makes sense... and those without good self-control or with very passionate personaltiies will lash out at that which frustrates them.

Those WITH good self-control or more mellow personalities will be more reserved in the face of the stupidity of the populace.

In the comfort of our house and our marriage, he's quite happy and content. He's a loving partner and father, a loyal and productive employee. Just because an intelligent person gets frustrated and angry at the stupidity in the world doesn't make them an unhappy and worthless human being.

Answer 3

Are you sure that the very smart people are actually rude? It might be because the very smart people ARE reserved and society has associated a person that is reserved with being rude. I am a smart person and fairly reserved. I don't always have anything to say to people and have no desire to talk to people.

Answer 4

I think a lot of very intelligent people are arrogant because they know they're smart. They place themselves on a mental tower above everyone else. Some think they're better than everyone else because all this knowledge that they have sets them apart.

I think the smart people who are reserved are aware of the fact that they are smart. But then again, there's that old saying:

"The more I see, the more I see there IS to see."
They may also take into consideration another old saying, that I love:

"A fool says little with many words, but a wise man says much with very few."
Some people don't understand the power of their own words.

Answer 5

Some smart people are not smart enough to get on another's level be it higher or lower. Reserved-reserved
Pronunciation: (ri-zûrvd'), [key]
—adj.
1. kept or set apart for some particular use or purpose.
2. kept by special arrangement for some person: a reserved seat.
3. formal or self-restrained in manner and relationship; avoiding familiarity or intimacy with others: a quiet, reserved man.
4. characterized by reserve, as the disposition, manner, etc.: reserved comments.
5. retaining the original color of a surface, esp. when decorating portions of the surface with other colors.

Not comfortable, intimate enough level with person, or cannot communicate on their level. Some of the smartest people have the poorest social skills, and also may lack common sense.
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Answer 6

Very smart people sometimes get tired of being misunderstood. It tends to make us cranky. And there are the contradictions involved in being well above-average in intelligence while trying not to sound conceited. I mean, who wants to lie about it and pretend to be no more than average when it is not so?

Additionally, we may be thought rude when we use words that are unfamiliar to the listener. This is usually, but not always, accidental. I once had a very scary experience with an Arizona state cop who did not like that I used a word he did not know. I had not intended to be condescending, but in my apology, I used the term "condescending," and he was unfamiliar with that term, too. However, if I were to talk down to him, he would not like that, either. How can we win?

As to being reserved, that seems to be the only solution when one is constantly being misunderstood.

Answer 7

Very mentally smart people are often linear. Interaction is often purposeful and goal-oriented. They don't understand the need to validate the cashier at Starbucks on an emotional level. The cashier is perceived as the function he performs; not as Mike who lives 2 blocks down and has a cat named Leroy.

Also, regular people have so much insecurity and self-doubt that they take everything that anybody says and does, personally.
Smart people will seem a lot less rude if you remember to tell yourself, each morning: "It's not all about me."

Answer 8

I'm smart. I wouldn't say I'm rude, but some people probably think so because I'm not outgoing. Truth is I'm pretty shy until I get to know someone, then I'm extremely outgoing. I think smart people may often be more reserved, because they tend to be more introspective. I personally don't get into small talk much, if I'm going to talk, it's going to be about something meaningful, I'm not going to waste my time talking about the weather.

Answer 9

I think it has a lot to do with how smart a person is being relatable to how well they interact with other people. Smarter people spend so much time inside their head that they don't have good people skills. Could be that they have low tolerance for people asking questions they feel are common knowledge. Bottom line is who cares!! Be rude back!! Little wake up call in humility is not a bad thing...except if you think they will snap and hurt you.

Answer 10

Some people think it is smart to be rude. It really isn't, it is demeaning to the person's intelligence. There is a HUGE difference between wit and lack of manners.
I don't know if 'smart people' are reserved, but I think wisdom keeps her own counsel.....

Answer 11

Smart people like to think their time is more valuable than yours... sometimes they come to this conclusion after talking to your or just perceiving how you present yourself to them... sometimes they are reserved because they have learned to not say everything that comes to mind without putting a filter on it or thinking it through... maybe these are the reasons why they are so smart!