Could I have some help with this big self-esteem problem for school? Okay, the problem is this: I'm going into 8th and I feel tiny. A-B-S-O-L-U-T-E-L-Y M-I-N-U-S-C-U-L-E. I feel like every girl is going to have nice full busts and good sizes. I know that everyone's different, but everyone in this tiny village seems to have the same type of girls; average-tall, overweight or just pretty curvy, nice chest, etc. I don't feel ready at all. I'm fine when it comes to looks, I really like myself for that, but there's the tiny problem. I'm only about 78 lbs and 5"1-- small build too. Nearly flat chat to add with... *sigh* AND (I know my problem seems endless, I'm sorry) I have a very fragile nature. I can easily find myself in tears. In my writing, it seems like I can kick some serious butt or be just really confident, but at school... in reality... it's self-consciousness galore! lol. Anyway, I need help. What do you think?
Thank you for any help!! :)
2006-08-21 08:14:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would never want to make anyone jealous for no reason! Geez, I can't help it if I'm tiny... I'm the one worried about it, so why would I brag right now???
2006-08-21 20:46:47 · update #1
Excluding a couple of answers, thank you so much for all the kind words!! It means a lot to me... :)
2006-08-21 20:47:24 · update #2
Oh hun. You shouldnt worry about what other people think. And yeah thats a lot easier to say when in writing like you said. But your bust size, is nothing to worry about. Once you get them you wont want them They get in the way of everything, sports, boys, and school even. You must be happy with yourself for others to be happy with you. I promise boobs arnt all they are perked up to be. (no pun intended) One of my good friends has no boobs, we make jokes all the time. But she knows she will and she just hasnt caught up with us yet. Your time will come enjoy it while it hasnt!!
The other thing is tell yourself three things you like about yourself every morning. Put a little extra effort into getting ready and it will be wonderful! good luck
2006-08-21 08:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know where you are coming from... i too grew up in a small town, and felt well... a little flat. But dont worry about it... there will be others with the same problem and i was never made fun of or picked on. Just wear nice fitting shirts, and maybe a little padding in the bra. All in all... this is a learning experience and you will be fine. Just make good friends who will be there for you and accept you for who you are. If you have the looks and the brain you should be fine. You will develop to how you are supposed to look soon. Just enjoy yourself! you are gettting into the best years of your life. Good luck honey! you will be just fine.
2006-08-21 15:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by jujuo19 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is jealous about someone.
Everyone is usually self concious about something.
You'll live through this and be just fine. In the 8th grade I was 80 pounds and in the ninth grade I was 90 pounds. I stayed at 90 until I was 30 (when I got pregnant) I'm only 5 foot tall.
2006-08-21 15:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by momoftwo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well.. I'm sorry and not all girls have big boobs.... if you want you can go to a store and buy a water bra or like gel inserts that go into your current bra... but well when you change in pe.. people might notice.. but maybe not.... but really dont feel bad you will get bigger or maybe you just arent destined to be a big bust girl... you shall survive i promise :) hope i helped you and boost your self confidince people will notice that more than the boobs.... but here email me and we can talk hs_teen_08@yahoo.com
2006-08-21 16:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i promise promise PROMISE you, you are not going to be the only girl who is worried about wether her boobs are big enough. also, your not going to be the only small framed girl either. You sound like your really pretty, and since your just going in to 8th grade, i can also promise you that your boobs are going to grow. you still got time :). as for being very fragile, you really just need to ignore all the hurtful things people will throw at you, and it really will make you stronger. you'll look back one day, when the road is getting bumpy, and think :" i have dealt with all that crap back in middleschool, i can deal with this, too."
2006-08-21 16:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by chikka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do seem awfully mature for an 8th grader.
Don't worry about your physical image so much. People who judge you on your looks aren't worth your time anyway. You should be judged on your maturity and intellect. Be yourself and act your age... Don't try to 'grow up' so fast.
I'm sure you will 'bloom' when it's your time.
Relax and enjoy 8th grade. It's one of the best years of your life!
2006-08-21 15:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by crazyotto65 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having big breasts isnt all its cracked up to be, believe me sweetie. Eventually they will come but enjoy the remainder of your childhood. Plus small breasts are very attractive to some people dont be ashamed be proud of what you have. Women with small breasts who dress well have always seemed a little more classy to me than huge boobs falling out of a girls top ugh!!
Enjoy school it will be over sooner than you realize!
2006-08-21 15:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by dreamgirl4myboy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 14 and im developed a lot. I HATE IT!!! i would love to have a flat chest and small butt any time. So dont be self-conscious
2006-08-22 03:06:30 · answer #8 · answered by cheeks3192 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im pretty much the same thing.. im 5'1 and 95 pounds and ima sophomore. im really tiny too.
you need to gain weight. your are so underweight.. i am too. but your about 20 pounds less then me.
just dont worry about it. youre right when you say everyone is different.. but not everyone is gonna be as perfect as they want to be.
2006-08-21 16:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by leanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as there are guys who like and go for the more developed girls, there are also guys....many of them....who actually PREFER the slimmer, less busty girls.
You may feel inadequet for now, but in just a few years, when those busty girls are sagging and drooping, you'll STILL be looking hot and young!
Just enjoy yourself as you are. I PROMISE it's gonna work out for you. :)
2006-08-21 15:24:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋