we have been married for 2 years and i am 22 and he is 28 i feel ready but he says not yet but i really really feel that i ready for a baby and when bring up he just walks away so wot should i do help me !!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-21 08:04:00 · 15 answers · asked by gem 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
if he isn't ready then he isn't ready! the last thing you want is for him to resent the child, go back and look at one of my questions the one about why my husband isn't ready... the best answer is one you need to read... you do not want to raise this baby by yourself... and if yall have one he will feel forced into it... just stay calm he will come around!
2006-08-21 08:19:22 · answer #1 · answered by doll face 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This probably isn't what you want to hear, but if he isn't ready, it probably isn't a good idea to have one right now. I understand what you are going through, as my fiance and I had the same problem for a while. I just thought that, although I have always known that my fiance would be a great father, I wasn't sure if he would end up resenting the fact that his life was turned upside down when he didn't want it to be. It's better to not have kids when you want them then have them when you don't. Eventually (hopefully) he will be ready and you two can enjoy the experience together.
2006-08-21 08:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by ifernnick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most men will say that they're not ready, ever!
But in my opinion you should enjoy each other's company for a few years more before you go down the baby route. You're only 22, you've got loads of time ahead of you!
2006-08-21 08:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you are able to have a lengthy discussion of your values, your ideals and how you each see your responsibilities and roles in rearing a child, finances, daycares, family... etc then neither of you are ready as a couple to have a child.
If he is not willing to talk to you about it, then i would think he's not ready. If it is something important to you and he just won't give you time to talk, then I would again, wonder if you even want a child at this point. If you cannot sit and discuss issues of importance to both of you.. then your marriage and co-operation need more work, imo... not the best time to have a child.
2006-08-21 08:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by ceemcee05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're young enough to wait a few years. I had my last baby at 36. I always think it is far better to be emotionally and financially stable before you have children. So if this is the man you plan to be with for the rest of your life, give it a break for about five years! Kids need more than love. They need happy parents who are financially viable.
2006-08-21 08:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry your husband feels this way, I know this sounds like emotional blackmail but it may work. My daughter and her husband have just found out after 9 years and three years on an IVF waiting list that her chances of conceiving are almost nil. Obviously they are devastated and wish they had found this out years ago. I say dont leave it too long as age creeps up on you.
2006-08-21 08:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband does not want a baby then that is his choice - ask him if there will be a time when he will try for a baby - if not or if you can not be happy with his answer then DIVORCE or Live with it. You should have talked about family planning before getting married.
Anyway babies just scream a lot and crap all over you way beyond the age of 18 yrs old.
2006-08-21 08:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're both still young , give it time. It is better that you wait until he's ready as it is so much better and definately more exciting to plan having a baby together.
2006-08-21 10:58:58 · answer #8 · answered by TB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk with him seriously about this.
If he doesnt want children then it is not fair on you, he should not let you hang on indefinately. Also the old excuse we cant afford it now, no matter what your income a true mother always makes sure her offspring never go without, you always manage no matter what.
2006-08-21 08:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by tamsin the happy gardener 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your husband isnt ready then there isnt much you can do but wait. he will be ready one day. trapping him wont help so dont do it
2006-08-21 08:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋