I had a friend and this person and I was really close. But of course life happens and we parted ways. It was for the best i know. The relationship was really unhealthy but i can't help but miss them every now and then. I just want to stop that longing to be around them. Whats the best way to do it?
2006-08-21 07:59:54 · 16 answers · asked by Tammy M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
don't look back
2006-08-21 08:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make new friends or go out with some other friends. Pamper yourself in some way like aromatherapy or a spa or a day trip some where with your other friends.
Just do new things that will help you to go forward and not look behind you. This is a time for you to have new adventures and healthier relationships that will gladden your heart and give you hope again and also lift your spirit.
I have experienced exactly what you are now going through and the parting and the pain was excruciating! But it was for the best that it happened. This was a year ago and I have gone on and made new friends and hang out with other friends so I am doing OK, and so will you,it just takes time. Time heals all hurts.
2006-08-21 15:16:46 · answer #2 · answered by December Princess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was involved in a similiar situation. I thought "what would i do without him" then i started to think about why we weren't together in the first place. He put me thru so much and by thinking about how he hurt me, i had the strength to finally move on. Believe me, if it was meant to be nothing could tear you and him apart. I believe in fate. Some people are just meant to be in your life only for a period of time. Me and this guy had a son and not long after my son was born we broke up. We were just brought together to bring our son into the world. Nothing more or less. We maintain a close knit relationship for the sake of our son.
2006-08-21 15:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by shawn_0523 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After my husband and I separated, I was devasted. My cousin passed on a poem to me called "After a While". Here it is:
After a while you learn the subtle difference between
Holding a hand and chaining a soul
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
And company doesn't always mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
And presents aren't promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up
And your eyes ahead,
With the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build all your roads on today
Because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans
And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
if you get too much, so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure,
you really are strong, you really do have worth,
and you learn and you learn.
With every goodbye, you learn.
2006-08-21 15:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by reinajazmin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the answer but will offer this instead. I am going through a similar experience and to be honest I don't want to give up the love I feel. It is mine and it makes me who I am. You miss it because it was good and if you start blocking out the memories of good feelings you might end up being incapable of happiness in the future. Instead remember these feelings and try to find them again in someone else who is better suited.
2006-08-21 15:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by Roger C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out and be social. sometimes you will always long for them. even when you are happy and have "moved" on. there is a song (corny i know) by barry manilow called even now. read the lyrics!
Even Now
When there's someone else who cares
When there's someone home who's waiting just for me
Even now I think about you as I'm climbing up the stairs
And I wonder what to do so she won't see
That even now
When I know it wasn't right
And I found a better life than what we had
Even now I wakeup crying in the middle of the night
And I can't believe it still could hurt so bad
Even now when I have come so far
I wonder where you are
I wonder why it's still so hard without you
Even now when I come shining through
I swear I think of you
And how I wish you knew
Even now
Even now
When I never hear your name
And the world has changed so much since you been gone
Even now I still remember and the feeling's still the same
And the pain inside of me goes on and on
Even now
Even now when I have come so far
I wonder where you are
I wonder why it's still so hard without you
Even now when I come shining through
I swear I think of you
And God I wish you knew
Some how
Even now
2006-08-21 15:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by mml619 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way about one of my old friends once. Just think of all the things that made you stop being friends and how much better your life is without that person. Worked for me.
2006-08-21 15:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after time many people forget all the negatives. that's how our minds work...but every now and then look back to when you were friends and then look to the present and see how much better off you are without them. when you can see yourself as the one person that can pick you up when you fall, you wont be missing your ex-friends
2006-08-21 15:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by brittany110586 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing that will help. Think about where your interests are and find new friends that like the same thing.
You sound like an insightful person...think about other people you like and work on making friends with them.
Good luck!
2006-08-21 15:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by Bobbie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just know that everything will turn out good, stuff doesnt happen for nothing, everything hasa place, and everything has a reason, just look foward and move on, u will be fine in due time
2006-08-21 15:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by chrissy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everyone has to bother the situation.i hv to do it many times.but we can only do is make new friends around and pray to god and the life goes on
2006-08-21 15:12:01 · answer #11 · answered by akash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋