me and my husband have so many problems. hes always lying, when he's angry he leaves me, he isnt affectionate anymore, he's put his hands on me hes done so any bad things but at the same time he's also done good. i have a child with him and he supports me bacause im going to school fulltime. i want to go to counselling but im not sure it'll work. ive tried talking to him about our problems but he never wants to talk. he says he wants to be with me but im not sure if its a lie. what should i do??
2006-08-21 07:43:37 · 22 answers · asked by Tanya G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should try a couple of times to work it out, then if he still doesn't respond to that I think you should get the divorce papers out. No man should ever treat a women like that. Listen to what your heart tells you.
2006-08-21 08:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he loved you just cause a couple get angry at each other doesnt mean you "puss" out and leave... If i left every time I was angry at my husband, i probably wouldn't never be here either.. but that isn't what a marriage is about..
It takes more than working supporting a wife and child to show that you love them.. Now some men show more affection than others. but if he is putting his hands on you in a bad way...
HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU...
2006-08-21 15:00:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be a lie. He may actually want to be with you, but is too dysfunctional in his emotins to be with.
Sometimes in marriage it is not about feelings, it is about logic. I wouldn't let another person in any other situation abuse me repeatedly or for an extended period of time. Leave him, for your own safety leave him and don't tell hime where you're going.
If you want to think about getting back with him after you've left him then make sure it's with the stipulation that you COMPLETE therapy together and work slowly into living together. For right this moment though read the advice hear, pack your bags and hit the gas.
2006-08-21 16:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only put in 50% on the relationship... the other 50% must come from him. As long as you are doing all you can you can either stay or leave without guilt. You do have a child and remember you are to do what is in that childs best interests.
2006-08-21 15:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your just not getting what you want when you want it. You spelled out all the negatives, but none of the positives. I think you should start spelling out the positives about him to yourself and to him. It's not really fair to expect him to serve your every emotional need. You need to get friends and hobbies.
Decide your priorities. What is your top priority in life? Is it your kid? Do you think another man can be a better Dad? Do you want to risk your relationship with your kid for another man to disappoint you? These are questions I ask myself when I get to the point I want to leave my husband. No man is perfect, so I suggest go to couseling- even if by yourself.
2006-08-21 14:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him. Trust is such an important part of a loving healthy relationship and it sounds like he has alot of problems controlling his temper and isn't a very nice guy. Do you want your child to learn that it is okay to behave in a relationship like you 2 do? Come on, get help and and get away from him.
2006-08-21 14:51:18 · answer #6 · answered by joandi_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on Birth control and don't have anymore kids. This will not strengthen a marriage. Bide your time and finish school, get a good job then if it is all the same get out. Good Luck
2006-08-21 14:57:03 · answer #7 · answered by minnesotafrozen2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats Your Life And Thats Your Choose Do Whats Best For You!But,I Think You Should Work It Out... :)...Good Luck Hun!
2006-08-21 14:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by ❀Mother Of 2❀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you asked for an opinion. so . you say you are going through allot here from your statment. is this the life you want to teach your child that this is ok to live this way. I wouldn't trust him at all.
you cannot make some one the way you wish that they would be.
he has a serious problem and you should find a way to gat to safety
2006-08-21 15:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
going to counseling is a good start, it's better if you go together but if he is not willing to go, you should still go so that you can build up a good support system that can help you make the right decision
2006-08-21 14:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by puertoricout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋