is it better to throw a surprise baby shower or let the mom-to-be know?

Question

my friend is adopting a newborn that is to be born next month and I wanted to give her a shower but i wanted to surprise her but i'm just wondering if that's a good idea

Answer 1

I think that it really depends on the new mom's personality. To some women, a surprise shower is a wonderful opportunity to be with friends and loved ones. For others, it's tough to be in the spotlight -- no matter how nice the intentions are.

It sounds like your friend is very close to the end of the adoption process, but it might still be wise to wait until after her little one is born to give her a shower. (You hear so many stories about adoptions going awry at the end.) Still, I think it's wonderful that you want to support her!

Answer 2

Depends on whether or not she likes surprises. :) Also whether or not she's good at guessing surprises (if it's hard to surprise her). Ask ppl who know her very well, or if you know her well, do what you think is best.Also, not to be a naysayer, but the person who said that you may want to hold off on it just in case something happens with the adoption, is probably right. Certainly we hope for the best and in all likelihood it will be just fine, but there's still the possibility. Of course there's also that possibility with ANY birth...so basically do what you feel is best. Good luck! :)

Answer 3

Yes I think you should surprise her. That would be a wonderful idea. When I had my shower I knew about it because of the simple fact that the friends that threw the shower for me didn't know how to get in contact with the rest of my friends so they HAD to tell me so they could get the phone numbers of the friends I wanted to invite. But yes you should surprise her.

Answer 4

I think a surprise baby shower is so great..I remember when my Aunt had a surprise baby shower for her daughter,and once she seen everybody there she broke down into tears because she was happy...So yeah i think a surprise baby shower would be really great and beautiful

Answer 5

Well, normally I say let her know, because it's good manners to let a pregnant woman have notice so she can look her best (not easy when you're 8 months pregnant).

Since this one is an adoption, I'd say go ahead and make it a surprise. Surprises are so much fun. Just check with her family to make sure they aren't already planning one and to enlist their aid.

Answer 6

I definitely think you should ask her. Especially since this is an adoption. You never know...maybe she doesn't want to make a big production out of this. Or, if you know her and think she'd like it you should still ask. That way she can atleast register at Babies R' Us and get some useful things.

Answer 7

She is probably very busy going through the adoption procedures, so it will probably be best for both of you if you let her know beforehand. That way you won't have it at a time that conflicts with her schedule and she won't have to rearrange important appointments.

Answer 8

I think suprise showers are fun and your friend may really enjoy it I also know some people are big "planners" and throwing a suprise shower may somehow throw her off. You know your friend much better than i do and you know what she will like.

Answer 9

I would do it after she adopts the baby. Just in case something goes wrong with the birth

Answer 10

depends on the personality of the mom-to-be, if she is the really outgoing, easygoing type, you can probably pull of the surprise. If not, I'd ask her.