I has this friend that is 63 and I am 26. He is obsessed with me and has told me that he wants to have sex with me. My hubby knows this, and I have told him that I dont want to talk sex with him during our chats, says ok but later ends up doin so anyways. What do i do? HELLPP!
2006-08-21 07:39:20 · 16 answers · asked by Again, you gotta ask! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's time to put out his fire. For some reason he doesn't get it that you don't want to talk about sex with him. Either you are still giving him "hope" in some subtle way, or he is a bad guy that needs it spelled loudly and clearly. If you aren't giving him hope and your husband isn't helping much you should first of all talk to your husband. Ask him why he isn't doing something about it. Or, find out if your husband and the friend are trying to seduce you. Yes, that happens lots.
If the friend is clueless then you need to sit him down and tell him that the next time he doesn't respect your wishes that he stops talking sex, that you won't EVER talk to him again. Also, tell him if he continues to stalk you, you will call the police and get a restraining order on him. Be Polite, Good Luck
2006-08-21 07:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey take a clue. he is 63 and you are 26 no wonder he is obsessed with you.you are the best case of him wanting sex with a younger woman forget 30's ,40's you are only 26 .you are in the peak of your life.dont rush into anything. for him it will be memorable but for u it may be bitter experience.
2006-08-21 08:37:25 · answer #2 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to cut off the contact because what this person is doing is totally disrespecting you and your wishes.
Depending who this person is, I don't know if you can cut off full contact but at least try to not be in his presence alone and if he keep asking you for sex and say its in a work environment then you can file charges against him.
Now if he is a friend of the family then you don't have to be his friend or associate with him if you don't have to.
If it wouldn't escalate the situation, I would consider having your husband speak with him.
2006-08-21 07:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's been that open and you provided him with the unequivocal 'no way', then it's time to stop being nice, diplomatic, and tolerant that he's just a nice old guy with a harmless (but annoying) obsession and take immediate steps to send an unwelcome message. No more socializing, talking, visiting, nothing....let him seek companionship elsewhere, but from now on....he's not welcome in your same living environment. Not even to explain, make prophesed amends, nothing.
2006-08-21 07:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely do not be alone with this guy. Talk to your husband again, make sure HE knows how uncomfortable you are. Your husband should support you and not put you in this situation. I certainly wouldn't allow him in my house ever again! Show your husband these responses!
2006-08-21 07:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kim C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this man is wishing he were younger and is just saying what is on his mind. he probably is opinionated. If it really bothers you then don't speak to him any more. if you care as a friend to this older man, then tell him it makes you uncomfortable to stop talking this way or your not going to talk with him anymore.
2006-08-21 08:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by RAINBOW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Urgh a dirty old perv Cut loose all ties with him don't see or speak to him again and maybes get your hubby to have a word with him
2006-08-21 07:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight to his face that this kind of "talk" make you feel uncomfortable, and that is unappropriate and unwelcomed.
Tell him that you will no longer entretain his conversations if he insists on the subject, and that if he does, you will discontinue his friendship.
Good luck
2006-08-21 07:46:20 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a way to not be around this guy?
confront him, tell him the same thing you just said. You are not attracted to him and you do not appreciate his comments as they are offensive to you.
2006-08-21 07:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by Kristy K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from this guy. He is not your friend because he does not respect your feelings. And he could be dangerous.
2006-08-21 07:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋