Hi,
You want an honest, truthful answer? I will do my best because I think that you are in a situation where you are very vulnerable to getting hurt.
For one thing, if you are asking us, rather than asking her, that is a sign right there that something is not right, or comfortable between the two of you. It concerns me that you do not feel that you can ask her and trust that she will tell you the truth.
It sounds as if you have tried, but she is telling you that she is a virgin, but that you for whatever your reasons may be - valid or not, you don't believe her. If you just want to have sex for the sake of having sex, then go **** someone who you don't love or care about - like a "booty call".
But, if you really love this girl and want to form a true relationship with her, then you absolutely MUST be able to have that absolutel trust between the two of you first an d foremost, otherwise, any relationship you may form with her, sexual especially, will be based on lies, or at least will not have the solid foundiation that trust brings to a relationship and is so very important if you want it to last.
So, if you think she is lying about her virginity, you must ask yourself, "why is she lying?". Could it be because she loves you so much, that she doesn't want to lose you, but she can't go back in time and undo what she has already done, so she is afraid that the only way to keep you is to tell you what you must have conveyed to her in some way is what you want to hear? If the situation is something like that scenario, then if you really love her, you must let her know that you realize that you both had a life before you met each other, before you knew that you were going to meet each other, and make a deal that you will not let anything that either of you did prior to your relationship with each other get in the way of the present.
I don't really know why it is important to you that she be a virgin - I mean personally, having sex with someone who has a clue of what they are doing tends to be a lot more satifjying, wouldn't you think?
But then again, everyone is obviously entitled to their own opinion and perhaps you have personal or religious or whatever reason that is important to you that she be a virgin and that is your right. But you must be up front with her and if you really love her, don't put her in a position where she feels she has to lie to you or you will leave her. You know?
2006-08-21 07:58:24
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answered by Anonymous
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Well, we are supposed to wait until we are commited to have sex. With basic level questions that you're asking I doubt if you know all the commitment even entails. My suggestion, wait. If she's a virgin she'll wait. Unless, she doesn't want to. Then she will probably sleep with a bunch of people and there's no point then is there?
Women who have had sex, want sex from their man. At least, in time.
Why is it so important she's a virgin? You want to be the only one she's been with but for what? Prides sake? So you can think it's ok not to use a condom?
hmmm....
By the way, if she's given oral sex.... SHE'S NOT A VIRGIN. You done answered your own damn question.
2006-08-21 07:44:35
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answered by nathancarson23 3
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First of all, there is absolutely no way just touching her could provide insight into whether or not she's a virgin. That's just your imagination, which may be running wild due to trust issues. Have you asked her? If so, what was her answer? If she said she's a virgin then why do you question that? It sounds as if you don't trust her, in which case you shouldn't be thinking about having sex with her.
2006-08-21 08:42:44
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answered by Speedo Inspector 6
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You do have a problem. And, it's your hang-up! There is a membrane called the Hymen that's broke if she's not a virgin. That said, that membrane can be broken by many things and not just by sex. Horse back riding, sports, many normal exercises, anything that stress and stretches the legs. You're out of luck if she says she's a virgin and she really isn't. Only she knows for sure.
Besides, you have no "right" to demand it of others if you are not a virgin as well.
2006-08-21 07:45:11
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answered by Morphious 4
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First off, why would you only do those things if she was a virgin? If you love her then you will want to experiance them with her. It seem you may not get the answer to your question. I dont think you can tell if someone is a virgin by feel. If she wont answer your question honestly and you are doubting the one she gave you I would reconcider the trust in the relationship. Sounds like there are issues there.
2006-08-21 07:43:47
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answered by Anonymous
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And why does it matter? You probably won't be the first or the last for her (definitely not the last with your attitude). If she feels deeply enough for you to have sex, AND you respect her (in which case, I guess you wouldn't be asking this question) then it doesn't matter whether she is a virgin or not.
What does matter is that you are both honest about your sexual history, have recently been tested for STDs, and have had an AIDS test before having sex. People need to look after the health of their partners by having themselves tested regularly.
2006-08-21 07:47:41
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answered by Anonymous
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well you could make her get a healthcheck, and if she has an STD it could be from having sexual intercourse. She might have gotten an STD from giving a ******* as well, though, so its not too dependable. theres really no way to tell if a girls a virgin. Ive been using a vibrator for years, way before i actualy lost my virginity. The guy i was with would swear to you i wasnt a virgin when we did it.
2006-08-21 07:42:57
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answered by california gurlie poo 3
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um....why does it matter whether she's a virgin or not???
Second, there is no way you can tell. Women can accidentally break their hymen from doing just about anything from the splits to sports to dancing, etc...so even if she is a virgin, she may not feel pain or even bleed the first time.
2006-08-21 07:40:33
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answered by ShineOnYouCrazyDiamond 4
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jus ask her if she loves u as much as u luv her shell answer truthfully but if something bad has happenend in her past u wont kno till she tells u. you should try asking her about her past
2006-08-22 04:09:16
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answered by tweetygurl4lyfe 1
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Um, ask her. If you don't trust her answer then you shouldn't have sex with her. But if you do have sex with her, wrap your slinky just to be on the safe side.
2006-08-21 07:41:29
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answered by FH 3
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