If you found text messages in your Husband's phone to a female co-worker saying that he loved her, missed her and had a spot in his bed for her but he says they are just friends and he only loves her as a sister and the rest was just a joke, would you still get a divorce or would you work it out? Even considering that he still loves you, in love with you and can't live without you.
2006-08-21 07:26:25 · 37 answers · asked by JenniferSue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would have a serious talk with him and let him know that you will get a divorce if this doesn't stop now...If he truly loves you he will stop..if not then divorce him
2006-08-21 07:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some joke! Your husband either has a weird sense of humor, or he's been caught with his pants down! Talk to the co-worker, that ought to help clear things up. I do mean talk, not a confrontation with all sorts of screaming and accusations and high drama. If she says it's just flirting and all in fun, then work things out. This is a bit much for playful flirting and hurtful to you. By the way, why were you reading your husband's messages? Were you already suspicious?
2006-08-21 07:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those text messages were for real. You don't say something like that as a joke. I would go see a counselor and try to work it out first. If counseling doesn't help then I would get a divorce.
2006-08-21 07:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce. Look at this way. If you still love him, in love with him and can't live without him . Would you send messages like that to a friend?
2006-08-21 07:32:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him?
Are you willing to share you bed and man with another women?
You could have the text messaging turned off by your carrier (did this for our 15yr old daughter...can't send or receive messages).
Tell him to stop regardless of the feelings. If he doesn't, file for divorce (you can charge it to HIS credit card).
Expect to pay between $1500-$3000 (retainer only...about 10 hrs of work) for an uncontested divorce (could be more according to the individual attorney)...the more you call, email, and visit, the more the divorce will cost.
Sorry for your predicament :(
2006-08-21 07:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Suzie Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cmon do you tell your friends you have a spot in your bed for them?Get real he isn't talking about sleeping i can tell you that!!And he has the balls to say he loves you and cant live without you after you finding that stuff out!!He is a real looser,and the best thing for you to do is divorce his butt,no telling who else he has said this too or even has done it cmon you don't need us telling you that you should already know what to do!!Good luck and hopefully you will be smart and tell him to hit the road!!
2006-08-21 07:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love your man then maybe you should work it out...im in the reverse situation to you...i love my guy but i find myself lusting after other people and thats because i'm not 100% satisfied with the relationship. Sounds harsh but maybe he finds something in her that isn't in you. Maybe she supports him emotinally, or carries herself in a way thats sexually appealing. I'm just guessing, i don't know what the exact situation is with the both of you. Ask him what he isn't satisfied with, what's lacking and try to fulfil that. Your relationship will feel new and fresh again and he'll soon forget about Miss co-worker.
2006-08-21 07:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Lady_J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try counseling and wait awhile until the divorce, if he keeps it up and you keep seeing those type of text messages then yeah get a divorce or at least a separation.
2006-08-21 07:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by tabatha1333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt wait for him to give me any bull crap about being like a sister and only a joke and even were only friends when i found those that night when my husband walked in the door the divorce papers would be sitting their waiting for him...and then him and his sister could have it...dont take any crap everygirl deserves better than that .......Good luck ......and ........GOD BLESS.....
2006-08-21 16:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch that's a tough situation. I found myself in a similar situation about 2 weeks ago but my husband left the emails so vague that they could have meant anything eventhough they intended to be sexual. For you the text messages said what they said and it is wrong and unfaithful in my opinion. Here's a motto....never do or say anything that you wouldn't say or do infront of your spouse. If my husband actually said what your husband said, i would leave him.
2006-08-21 07:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jaymie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋