Why is giving your virginity seen as a good thing when not pleasant and how long should you wait? (M)?

Question

Why is giving someone your virginity seen as a nice thing when its not?

Sleeping with a virgin would not be a pleasant experience at all...

They would be tense and feeling bad or dirty as its something they consider sinful or dirty has heads been filled with relgious crap and feeling guiltier if its fun.

More likly they will be bleeding, all tense as worried, so it will be painful for them, pretty much no chance of an orgasim.

The guy if nice won't be having a good time as he will be feeling he is hurting her and all tense about it to...

No clue about foreplay or anything,,,

Infact most foreplay would be considered bad too so come again why is it good?


Not to mention the fact exactly how long are you to wait till you find mr or mrs perfect without getting into sexaul realationships first to define that you are not buddies dating someone else?

ALL POSTS MUST HAVE AA ACTUAL FIGURE IE 16, 18, 21, 25, 35 (IE AFTER PEEK FERTILITY IN FEMELAES)45 AFTER MENOPAUSE ETC?

As opposed to get it out of the way... use condoms so no pregnacies and stds and do all the do it in a car, tent spin the bottle etc young stuff? So when you meet Mr or mrs perfect you are a good kisser

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Actually below if Im asking its as been there, done that , know what talking about.

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Absteinance =
No hugs, no feelings, no closeness, no wamrth, no love, affection, foreplay kissing or anything as you will ONLy be allowed to do any with a girlfriend as a girl mate you can't as her boyfriend would not like it ...

So that would mean to get close she has to be your girlfirned and that only happens in sexual relationships not buddies

Plus a virgin would just lie there like a corpse... thats not warm sexy or fun...someone who does something as they like it for itself but want to be with you if better

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You dont get it...


Maximum not minumum age...

Ie you saying you should be alone and hurting and missing out watching everyone else till you are 85 past menopause, cant get it up, no chance of kids etc


get it????

Why is it people can't follow a simple easy instructiong or requirement for a maximum age and reasons why possibly in terms or the environmants you are likly to be in and social surroundings... ie will your mates be single and partying or married with kids?

Will you be in an environment full of others your age and single or not...
Fertility levels in case you may want kids... think in those terms or others...

but PLEASE GIVE FIGURES AND REASONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sarasole... very wrong Im talking about real virgins I have been with not professionals... Plusd Do know what Im talkable about is basic biology coupled with the notion of practice makes perfect etc... And doing something would make people more confident...


And if i DONT'T know what Im talking about howcome you don't see all the 40 + year olds snogging in cinemas, making out in cars and doing all the typical teeen stuff?

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How about if you wait nothing happens but everyone else gets it.... thats cvant be allowed so if not married by 17 your should go with however you can untill you find someone specail... no married person has any right to more loving making experience then you...

All married people appear selfuish they want it all for themseves


And those saying to wait when young must be kidding themselves ... whose to say you will find anyone and not look back at how you wated your life and missed out..

Answer 1

well personally when I lost my virginity it was not horrible painful. We had PLENTY of fore play I think you are confused as to what it means to be a virgin today. Just because you have not experienced intercourse does not mean you have not experienced foreplay and kissing . I was not tense and worried I enjoyed myself. I didnt have an orgasm but it was still a good experience for me.

Answer 2

Your question is a little jumbled, but I'll try to give you a serious answer. My husband and I were virgins when we got married. We did other "foreplay" type of stuff before, and we communicated with each other enough to know what to do. I personally believe a person should wait until they are married to have sex, but that seems too ideal to most people, or even impossible. At least wait until you are in love with someone. Let nature take its course on your levels of affection. All affection should be sincere. Don't do sexual things just for the sake of it or to get it out of the way or to establish what type of relationship you are in. When I was dating, I considered a guy my boyfriend when we kissed. Friends don't kiss (well, outside of Jerry Springer world). Give a kiss when you are dying to, touch each other when you are dying to and both willing, and then giving up your virginity is the last and long awaited step that just comes naturally at this point in the relationship. At that point, my husband and I were dying to get married. Though it hurt a little and took us a few tries, it was still a very exciting moment. Nothing beats the closeness you feel with that type of affection. I was 19 when I got married, but I was also quite a bit more mature than many of my peers. There is not a magic number of years you must live before you have sex. If I had to throw a number at you, I would say to wait until you are at least 18. Numbers aside, I suggest you wait until you are in love, and you have both naturally progressed affectionately to the point that sex is all that is left. At this point it will be sincere and sweet. Yeah, she and maybe you might not climax, but after a few tries, and good communication, it will be great and a great experience for both of you. As for foreplay, it is just another step in the affection ladder. Let it come naturally, don't force it. If you are with the right girl, communication is strong and you will lead each other. As a note, if either of you happen to be actively in a church that preaches to wait until you are married, I suggest you follow. Guilt can destroy an otherwise happy couple.

Answer 3

Waiting for the right person is worth it and when?? well, when you know that you will be marrying the person. Getting married, the HONEYMOON is the RIGHT MOMENT. Gosh, that is so special, why, because your husband sees that he is the first guy that you have slept with. How do you think that makes him feel...yep..PROUD and A VERY HAPPY MAN. You will also feel the same that you waited for the right person at the right time. Sleeping around with other men before marriage is not good for your system and your pride so, if you are a female, do the above and tell me if i'm right.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

It is no big deal these days is it?
If a girl makes the point of holding on to it then the guy who does the job knows he is so special.
As a menopausal 50 year old I remember it as a fun thing.
You don't half go on though girl, I nearly didn't bother to reply.

Answer 6

I was 17 years old when I lost my virginity, and for me it wasn't a horrible experience at all, He was very gentle and considerate, and he performed plenty of foreplay, because he wanted me to enjoy it. That was nearly 22 years ago, but I cherish the memory of my first time. I didn't love him, nor did he love me, but he cared enough to make it as pleasurable as possible for me.I wasn't tense; I felt like I was embarking on a wondrous adventure, one that I would never forget.

Answer 7

I'm sorry to say this, but you have no clue! Your question seems to rant and rave, and not have any merit to it at all. I don't know if anyone could convince you any different, since you have made up your mind about all that you talk about. I truly feel sorry for you, and hope you can get help, because you need lots of it. Good Luck!

Answer 8

You analyze and intellectualize too much. Get a hold of yourself. If you spend any more energy from that brain of yours trying to figure out women your gonna shribble up Guy!! Let it Be. Let it Be.

Answer 9

I am sorry but after reading your long question, I have lost all interest in sex.

32 ( i can still follow instructions though).

Answer 10

obviously you don't know what are you talking about! and you wont know because you've been only with hookers... and i also think you need to do a little more research in real life...