whenever me and my husband argue he leaves and doesnt come home that night. how do i get hime 2 stop doin that

Answer 1

Have you tried talking to him? Tell him how it makes you feel. But talk when you're calm and when he's in the mood to (ask him when is a good time to talk), and don't use accusatory statements like "you never" or "you always", use terms like, "I feel" or "when you do this it makes me feel...", so he doesn't feel attacked. But my husband will very often leave the room when we get into a particularly big argument and it makes me nuts, but he does it because he knows he's just too angry and he might say something he'll regret later, that might hurt him. So I have to ask...does he try to leave the room and you follow him? If so, don't. When he does that, give him space. He'll come back when he's ready. So I think that maybe if you make it safe for him to be angry at you while still remaining in the house he might not leave anymore. It might start with simply telling him that.

Anyway, you didn't give a lot of details, so forgive if some of this doesn't apply to you. Just throwing things out there. good luck!

Answer 2

Change your method of arguing. Maybe the way you argue really drives him over the edge. Honestly though, I think he's got something on the side and would leave over small things.

If changing your argument method doesn't work then consider leaving your house for a week, to see what happens. I bet the jerk would understand your feelings a little better.

Answer 3

that is soooo not good. How do you know that he doesn't pick a fight on purpose so he can leave and spend time with his mistress? Just tell him he can't leave until you resolve the fight..or better yet follow him when he runs out the door. Just do everything to make sure he doesn'tleave the house and be like where are you going to stay? If he doesn't stop doing this..then I think its really bad because he doesn't respect you and you may need to reconsider your relationship with him.

Answer 4

Maybe he's the type of person that just need some alone time afte an argument.
If this is the case and you dont want him gone overnite then ask him if he would be willing to stay home but you both stay in seprate rooms and you promise to give him his space and not try to continue the argument.

Answer 5

You either accept the fact that he is too immature to be in a relationship or you don't let him back in when he shows his sorry self back up at home after 2 nights out roaming.
My best suggestion is counseling, if he won't go with you, then go alone. This is no way to live.

Answer 6

well, that's a bit childish.. .a relationship is full of ups and downs and both parties in a couple should sit down and talk .. maybe not right away.. but when the steam settles...

you should definitely sit down and have a long talk with him.. I'd be curious as to where's he's sleeping ?! ...

if that doesn't change.. maybe you should change the lock when he's out... and don't let him in .. that should teach him a lesson

Answer 7

Dont be there when he gets home...my hubby has a cousin who used to start arguments ON PURPOSE...just to be able to leave. I suggest,also....A little dose of his own medicine would taste great...LOL...You be the first to leave next time. See if he likes it! Good Luck....and Take Care...oh yea...If you do leave home first...dont actually do anything that might damage your marriage.

Answer 8

Stop argueing

Answer 9

this might be the way he deals with his anger.i don't believe in violence towards women so i would just leave the house if i got that mad and just go be by myself but that only happened a couple of times

Answer 10

Change the locks on the door.