We have been together 2 years and share a child together. We have had a really bad relationship the entire time, and I finally want to call it quits. He doesn't want me to move out and go to a shelter, or move back to the state I used to live in, he wants me to save up money, and live in the same county, so we can share custody. I agree. But this morning he tried to have sex with me, but I just pretended to be asleep. I never want to have sex with him again. I am hurt too bad, from all our past. How do I tell him this?
2006-08-21 07:17:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That you are just living there until you have enough money saved up to get the hell out, and you want nothing to do with him .. Make it clear to him though. IT is only for the sake of the child for now, and do not give into him, just to make him happy
2006-08-21 07:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as you two agree that you should stay in the city for the child i think you should really have the child in mind and get out. you can share custody no matter if you live in the same city or not, but your well being and safety is important to yourself and your child because if you are not around, and its the bf fault, then the child will be put up in state custody and you will be dead.
get out, find youirself somewhere to live even if you have to go to shelter. find REAL shelter for yourself and the child and screw him. no man has the right to try to force himself on you.
2006-08-21 07:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to leave... This situation is likely to continue, and will be destructive to both of you. If he doesn't understand the simple meaning of "no", I can't see what else can you do but move out. See if you can stay with a friend for a little while, hopefully you can find your own place soon. You didn't indicate what your financial situation is - are you working? Good luck.
2006-08-21 07:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judge Judy.
2006-08-21 07:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it very interesting that you say you and your husband "share a child together". Is he not the father. If the realationship is so bad WHY ARE YOU STILL THERE.
2006-08-21 07:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't share his bed anymore, that should send out a clear message.
If you find he can't keep his hands to himself despite sleeping apart, you may have to move out anyway, to a place that suits you.
2006-08-21 07:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell hime the truth in a nice way..it won't be easy but you gotta be serious about.. don't be like no i don't want to have sex with you and the next day you do ..thats bad because he'll think you playing games and won't take you serious...then your relationship with hime and your son might change ina way you don't want to ... make sure you don't do soemthing you don't wnat to do
2006-08-21 07:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just tell him and have plans in place to leave immediately. I suggest a safe house where they will help you get your life back on track.
Contact your local sheriffs dept for information.
2006-08-21 07:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you expect when you share the same bed? sleep on the couch or find a place to move to.
2006-08-21 08:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him the relationship is over - you are just saving money to move out -if he doesn't want to hear it - then move away to where you need to go
2006-08-21 07:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋