Adultery...sinful or...?

Question

have ever been hit on by a married guy? (NOT your own husband.)

Did you turn him down? If so, why? Was it because you think marriage is a sacred institution and it would be sinful to sleep with a guy, or because you think that any married guy must be scum if he hits on other women, or because of the other woman's feelings, or because of some combination or some other reason?

And guys, the same with a married woman, not your wife?

If not, would you, if someone hit on you that was married?

--j.

Someone mentioned that it's more about morality than sin - after all, if one isn't going to be faithful, why bother getting married?

True, but what if you are NOT married, but the other person is? Therefore, you are not cheating, but they would be.

Answer 1

I could care less about the "sin" part. Its more like morality. Getting married is committing to your partner and no one else. To "cheat" is to break that committment. Whats the point of being married if you're not interested in committment? I have never been unfaithful to any committed relationship I've been in. I wouldn't want it done to me! And as far as married men who hit on women other than their wives? They repulse me! There is no bigger turn-off! About eight years ago, I dated a man who I later found out was separated, but still married. I left him the day I found out. I didn't even confront him, I just "fell off the face of the earth". I was hurt and disgusted knowing that someone I cared about so much, was such a pig. He found me at a club about two weeks later, and I threw my rum and coke in his face, and had the bouncer throw him out! Had to have my phone number changed and I eventually moved.

Answer 2

Adultery is sinful and karma is a MF. Yes, I've been hit on by more than one married man. Yes I've turn down many. My ex husband cheated on me and seemed to have no qualms about doing so repeatedly. Marriage is a sacred institution although I did go through a short but bitter phase in my life in which I declared that if "no one" cared about my marriage then I wouldn't care about anyone else's. That's a sick train of thought and I realized it before it was too late. I also think that married men who cheat can't be trusted and are not relationship material. They have already proven that they are not to be depended on. I believe that if a married man will cheat on his wife with me then he will cheat on me with someone else. I know that the wife has feelings too. I was that wife. I can only imagine what sob story my husband must have fed to some of his women. Some of them had the audacity to look at me with accusing eyes as if I was doing something wrong to him. I knew about several but I still tried to keep my marriage together for 3 years while knowing. It was hell. Infidelity not only affects the husband & the wife, it affects the children and the 2 families that were brought together through this marriage. Adultery is sinful and selfish.

Answer 3

Adultery...sinful or...? a torture demanding punishment?

Well, for as long as you know where your boundaries are I think it's acceptable.People as we all are are capable of feeling and at a certain point an attraction may or may not evolve resulting from that interaction.We have no right to be judgmental in an issue that's inevitable given the test to prove how loyal we are to our partners.It's a very strong force that when faced in that same situation, I don't think logic plays its role right away.But when it's a matter of choosing between your own selfish desires and that of the happiness of your family circle,I believe that the value of family should always stand out and will hold it up no matter what.A fling/flirt happens to spice up life out from ordinary once in a while and I don't think anyone should be prohibited because s/he's being human.But what I do strongly believe is that before one does carry out any action like getting sexually involve for instance, one should really think zillion times of the consequences of that act for it can really be damaging,heartbreaking for everybody concerned and that's not fair and acceptable to anyone.
It's good to love but it's wrong to hurt the people you love because you weren't thinking straight at that moment in time.That's just mean and hurtful.

Answer 4

"have ever been hit on by a married guy?" Yes.
"Did you turn him down?" No.

"And guys, the same with a married woman, not your wife?" No.

"If not, would you, if someone hit on you that was married?"
Sure, as long as the partner doesn't find out (or mind), that's when the problems start.

Answer 5

I have been hit on by married men. They have continued to pursue me even after they find out that I am married. I turned them down for so many reasons. I am married and absolutely adore my husband. The mere thought of being intimate in any way with anyone other than him, just grosses me out! He's my best friend and I would never betray him that way.

Answer 6

This is a tough one, yes it is morally wrong, but I can understand why it happens. I have been there! Before the moral police send the emails, I know it was wrong, and I felt bad about his wife, but it did not stop me nor him. This was 8 years ago.
I have since divorced, and am still single, he is still with his wife, and we are not together. This is the one and only time I have ever done this, I am not proud of it, and don't consider myself a home wrecker. Fortunately no harm was done, and as far as I know his wife has never found out, nor did my ex-husband.

Answer 7

Yes adultry is sinful.And I am a married women however I have been hit on by married men.It is a sin to cheat on your spouse but i think for me it's more about morals, it's not a sin to flirt,

Answer 8

Tell the truth no matter what sex you are. Why hurt your spouse and make a fool out of them? Get a separation or a divorce then start dating. Sin...who cares? It is just deceitful and mean. If you want to sleep around then don't get married.

Answer 9

Yes i have been hit on by married guy(s) and I did say no for two reason. 1. he's married 2. I'm married otherwise it would have been a yes.

Answer 10

Wow- there are a lot of questions right there! Have I ever been hit on by a married guy? Yes. The rest I don't want to get into...