Do men have to have sex mags. & masterbate daily while in a relationship? Is this really normal or what wrong?

Question

my boyfriend of 2 yrs has secretly had long bathroom visits with himself and his mags. I just want to Really understand and have clarification of what occurring. I feel unworthy, unattractive and alone. Porn of all forms doesn't bother me, but being replaced by it does. That has happen many times. I am 46 he is 34. I know that could matter some but I am always available and ready. He is very sneaky and trys to hide all the time. He watches XXX when we have sex. I'm no knock out, but never been told I was ugly. I've lived and worked hard my life and maybe not Miss body of the year. But I have tried everything under the sun to get his attention focused more on me. Come to me instead of grabing a book and isolating for hrs. ? Is it me? I'm not visually stimulating to him? Or is it just the way Men all are for the most part? I have never had a problem like this with anyone in 30 yrs. Just really need some advise from men. Not so much from women, because we thing very different then men.

Answer 1

I know you want answers from men mainly, but I dont think its a man woman thing....I think it is a common sense thing...You are right about the masturbating and porn magazines, it is ok, but it is replacing the intimate times you and this guy could be having....that is not healthy. I can sure understand why you wouldnt feel worthy. He is the one with the problem, not you. You have never experienced this type of thing in 30 years, so obviously it cant be you. Why are you doing this to yourself, you are doubting yourself because of what he is doing. You have never doubted yourself before and if you stay with him any longer, you will end up with no self esteem. I am only guessing here, but I suspect his goings on would affect your lovemaking, because you would be wondering in your mind if he is making love to you or fantacising about one of the women/girls in his porn mags. I would hate to have those kind of thoughts about the man I love. It really would be horrible. It is normal for a man or woman to masturbate, but when it interfers with the intimacy, then something is wrong....and in your case, it is not you who has the problem.

Answer 2

Masterbation is totally normal. As is it, Guys are more visual where women are more into romanticism. a lot of guys have sex mags, and they can think of the girl and have her anyway he wants, in his mind. What Im saying is, men and women do this, but in different ways and for different reasons. It is however, very disrespectful for the guy to do this with you around, he should share his fantasies with you and yall talk about it, thats what makes a relationship grow. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel about this. I think you will be pleasantly surperised.

Answer 3

Your not alone. I left my ex's mags a certain way I left and came back, the mags have been gone through, when I confronted him he denied. But it made me feel the same way, But if you think about it he's the one with the problems.It's not you.Men have diff minds. But if I look at a guy from chip in dales he blows steam from his ears.

Answer 4

2 pts

Answer 5

My BF does it all the time and i have learned to not let it bother me or make it feel like i am not fulfilling some need he has. I realized its just something he has to do and that is completely normal

Answer 6

all guys beat off it gives us the privacy to fantasize about anything we want without punishment or anything like that. so it is normal and maybe theres not enough sex for him with you so he goes to do his thing alone... maybe you guys should have sex more often...? or maybe you should talk to him and ask him about it... either way u asked
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God Bless
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Answer 7

Nothing wrong with masturbating.
In fact, I'm doing it right now.
Do you want to watch?

Answer 8

Without checking out your goods - I couldn't tell ya !!