i just mainly wanna know if hes right do all girls do it? b/c i just feel weird even tho we've been married for so long and now were getting a divorce over it! is this stupid of him or stupid of me...whos right?
2006-08-21 06:54:39 · 27 answers · asked by danielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Lots of answers already but one more wont hurt.
I'm afraid a lot of women initiate sex. I do it all the time, it lets my husband know that I desire him and that I'm actually in the mood. As a generally rule men want or think about sex 24/7 so you need not worry that you're efforts will be a waste.
You don't have to do anything sleazy or deviant, just dress up for him, guys love costumes especially school girl or cheerleader outfits. Just light some candles and lay across the bed naked or some such thing just to show him you're interested.
If you are really just not comfortable then let him know this is how you feel. He has to respect your feelings over it just like any other sexual act or fetish. If he can't then perhaps a divorce is best.
2006-08-21 07:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Alpha Wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's an arrogant buffoon. Some women don't initiate sex. Just like some men won't. It's called waiting for the other person to do it, and it can be done until the end of time. Women who initiate sex do it because they want two things: they want the sex, and they want to make the first move.
But if you are getting a divorce over such a trivial issue, I'd say it's stupid of both of you. Probably more him than you, but you should at least try to meet him half way and give it a shot (initiating the sex i mean) and see how it feels before giving up on the marriage.
2006-08-21 07:04:48 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ALWAYS iniciate sex.....I mean dam, closed mouths don't get fed right??? But you are married so it shouldn't be a problem with asking for sex.... Matter of fact, you don't ask you should be getting it all the time...... but if your having trouble, maybe you should talk to each other about it. Maybe your shy....if this is the case, maybe you should leave a little note around the house where he should be able to find it and ask for it that way or just send him a text message on his cellphone.....there is ways, you just have to be creative, but divorcing is not the answer.
2006-08-21 07:33:13 · answer #3 · answered by nita51777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if you're getting divorced over it, you're both stupid!! Have you ever tried to iniciate sex? Its really not that big of a deal, and it will make your man feel like the king that he thinks he is!! It can be as subtle as a look between you both that tells him what you're thinking. But, if you've tried and are really uncomfortable, then whats the big deal for him to do it? Especially if he knows that it makes you feel weird. As long as you're having sex, who really cares who made the first move?
2006-08-21 07:07:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kimber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant really say who's right or wrong. I am a very sexual person and I have never had any problems asking for it or initiating it. Most guys would love it. If this is the only reason you guys are getting divorced I would contact a counselor and get some help with being assertive!
2006-08-21 07:52:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's stupid you're getting a divorce over this issue. I think he's wrong for pushing you to do something you obviously don't feel comfortable doing, however, as a young adult female I know that more and more females are getting more aggressive with their sexuality. Personally, I know that my boyfriend does enjoy when I initiate sex. It's that aggressive behavior that really gets him turned on. I think that a guy doesn't want to always have the pressure on him. As much as us ladies think that their brains revolve around sex all the time.. we're wrong. They don't always think, "hey, I want to have sex with her.. let's go". Sometimes they are just in their own worlds so it's a huge thrill when you come along and put that bug in his ear. Or better yet just go for it! It can spice it up a bit and with sex that is definitely key to keeping it exciting yet sensual. Hope everything can get worked out with you and your hubby!!
2006-08-21 07:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by moonshadow385 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. But let me tell you that it's not a big deal to iniciate sex.if you get the urge to have sex with your husband there shouldn't be any holding back. but if you guys are getting divorce because of this YES it is stupid
2006-08-21 07:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should compromise and initiate some intimacy. It is worth saving your marriage. My husband loves it when I come on to him. It lets him know that you are still attracted to him after all this time. A man's ego needs to be stroked every once and a while. If he doesn't feel like you are physically attracted to him, after a while, he may try to find a woman who is. If he wants a divorce over this then maybe he is already starting to feel this way. I suggest that you do whatever it is that you do that allows yourself to feel sexy and show your husband that you are still interested in him sexually. Good Luck!!!
2006-08-21 07:06:02 · answer #8 · answered by cocacola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men want to feel wanted just like women do. Yes I initiate sex often to show my Man I am attracted to him. I doubt thats the only thing you're getting a divorce over.
2006-08-21 07:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 22:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋