In order to make a decent living, I can't stick around in my tiny home town, and I'm REALLY tired of my college town. I'm thinking of moving to either Orlando, Atlanta, or Houston. The only problem is, I don't know anyone there. At first I was all, "nah, I don't care," but as the time comes for me to make my decision, I grow more worried about that aspect. I've never been anywhere where I didn't know ANYBODY, and I'm not all that great at making friends. The thought of being all alone in a big city is kind of intimidating. If you've ever been in this situation, how did you cope? What did you do to not feel so alone?
2006-08-21 06:36:31 · 13 answers · asked by Casey 4 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I did this.
1. I found friends at work to go out with after work for drinks on occassion or to go to lunch with.
2. I joined a group called the Sport and Social club that had multiple sports you could participate in. Basically, I joined a couple of volleyball leagues through them and they placed me on teams with people I had never met before. We would have weekly games and then go out for drinks after our team played. This was fun and they have multiple sports you can get involved with. They also host field trips.
3. I kept in touch with friends from home and offered them up my place to stay if they wanted to come to town.
Basically, try to find groups that exist revolving around your interests and hobbies and you will meet people.
I can be either introverted or extroverted depending on the situation. So, I guess in many ways, I reverted to my introverted self quite heavily.
You could also use the time to focus in on other goals such as getting a graduate degree. This could help you in your career later on and provide you a method of meeting other people at the same time.
Good luck
2006-08-21 06:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by BAM 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all the midwest is the easiest to make friends hands down on either coasts they want to know why you didn't grow up with them before they become your friends, in the midwest like Houston, you'll make friends quick, I recomend Kansas though, or more specifically Lawrence, Kanas, thats my ultimate paradise. The people all there are very like in tune with how much it "sucks" to be working and they are all really like it seems desiged to make your day go by easier and better. The residence there are my heart. Make sure you find a good job and you'll have more friends than you can imagine.
2006-08-21 09:25:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family has recently moved to a bigger city where we knew very few people (just distant relatives which doesn't really count!). I must admit it's been lonely. I try to keep in contact with my old friends but of coarse there is very little in common to talk about now. I've started joining groups, for example the neighbourhood fitness facility and a mom's group through my daughter's daycare. Hopefully soon it will start getting easier but without my husband and daughter with me I'm sure I would have already gone home. Good luck if you do decide to do it!
2006-08-21 06:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by jen 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I moved for a job. At first it was so lonely! I'm a bit on the shy side so it took me a few months to find some friends in the area. Unless you know you'll hit it off with your coworkers immediatly, I'd say you should plan on having a few lonely weeks. I came in as a manager, so no one from work wanted to hang with me, naturally. But as soon as I found some friends and got to know the area, it was very fun. Kind of liberating!
2006-08-21 06:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have moved to a place where I did not know anyone a few times. Go for it and don't worry so much about the lonliest part. You will meet people at work. Join a gym, go out for a few drinks, go to the library and see if they have a singles dance, yoga classes, anything! Good luck!
2006-08-21 06:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by celestine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i did the same thing when i joined the army, i moved from place to place and i was from a tiny little town in the mountains(there was 42 poeple in my graduating class) and the first place i went was san antonio tx. (culture shock) but that made it cooler cause i learned different ways and i met poeple at work in my apt. social gatherings(parties) the way ya sound you will have no problem, it sounds like ya have a good sense of humor and that always helped me.
2006-08-21 09:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a matter of fact, I just moved to this city where I don't know a soul. The other night I went out to a bar and got rotten drunk. Then I woke up in the morning and my boxer shorts were gone! I can't figure this out. They can't have just disappeared like this.
2006-08-21 07:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you have a job in the new city, you will meet people there. I also meet a lot of people while taking classes at my local community college. Or, go to a church. If you have hobbies such as knitting or quilting, you can find groups of women who like to get together and knit or quilt.
I wouldn't recommend gyms as good places to meet people.
2006-08-21 06:46:14 · answer #8 · answered by Stella Blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered internet dating? It's socially acceptable for people moving to a new town to internet date...
2006-08-21 06:43:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am facing that same problem right now. it is hard but I try to keep busy but I miss my home in Texas.
2006-08-21 06:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋