How do I get the man that I love and care about to stop drinking?

Question

Thanks you everybody for the advise, I got him to quit drinking and things are looking up.

Answer 1

back off a little bit about it for a week or two, you wanting him to stop will not make him stop. the only things hell do is drink more he's only gonna stop if he wants to

Answer 2

Drinking becomes a real major problem if:
*A woman who has more than three drinks every day or 21 drinks per week
*A man who has more than five drinks every day or 35 drinks per week

And this could lead to many other problems if he takes risks such as drink driving or mixing medicine with alcohol. So if your man fits into this category, you need to make him understand the hazards and that you care for him, his health and his life. Dont let it take over his life. Once he understood this, you can consult professional help like doctors for advice and treatments, or accompany him to visit consultants or relevant organisations on substane abuse treatment.

You must be by his side ans give him constant support alon the way, as quitting ir sifficult. Furthermore if his circle of friends share the same problem, he would most likely not tell them about this.

However, if he is just a heavy drinker, just tell him to cut down. there are several ways. you can check this website:

Answer 3

you can't make him stop drinking he has to want to stop drinking. There is no way to make them I know. You need to look for an allanon support group in your area or seek counseling for your self and family. I am from an alcoholic family and was married to an alcoholic for 15 yrs, loved him dearly but it was like living with Jaykle and Hied couldn't do it any more my self.I have been divorced for six years my children and I are better for it. Good luck to you and if you think he can quit with out help he hasn't he will just lie and do what he has to to keep it from you. I'm not saying he doesn't love you I am sure he does but he just can't help it alcohol has the power the power to change lives, take lives and ruin lives, it creates cheaters and beaters out of good people .Being an alcoholic is a disease it is treatable and some people recover others don't. Good luck and god bless you.

Answer 4

YOU can't get an alcoholic to quit drinking. He has to WANT to quit.

You say you got him to quit but if that was your idea then he will definitely go back to it. He may stay dry for a short while or long while but until he has surrendered he will always go back to the bottle.

BELIEVE THAT!

P.S. An alcoholic will not stop drinking in the name of love. How can he truly love you if he can't love himself?

Answer 5

If your man is an alcoholic he is the one that will have to take the steps to quit drinking. You are trying to control a situation that you will never be able to control.

Drunks lie and will tell you what you want to hear and what they want you to believe. If you think he's quit drinking....he probably hasn't but wants you to believe in the sobriety he proclaims.

Drunks (alcoholics), usually have stash bottles, pints, 5ths, and airplane flasks stashed everywhere...even in the toilet water recepticle on the back of the toilet. You would be amazed at how ingenious the hiding places are.

HELP this person by taking him / her on a trip to AA....attend the meetings

Answer 6

You can love him, you can give him support in other ways. But you can't make him stop drinking, that's his decision to make and he will tell you a million ways how is is going to do it or he has stopped, and you must remember this is an addiction, and he needs to get hept from AA or some other organization. He has to want it and he has to take hold of his life and do it.. be there for him and thats all you can do. Don't become an enabaler.

Answer 7

you cant make him stop he has got to be the one to realize he has a problem another is when something bad happens that will make him think about what he is doing but if he thinks it is more important to drink than him stopping for you then your not going to last in your relationship very much longer if you were to ask him to choose between you and his drinking and if he didnt choose you well then you know that there is something so much better out there for you because you deserve better than someone who would put other unimportant things first

Answer 8

You can,t get him to stop unless he is willing to stop drinking. All you can do is let him know that you love him and that you are worried about him and his health and let him decide on his own. The hardest thing to admit is that the he has a drinking problem but he has to see it. I wish there was another way. I would love for my dad to stop drinking.so I can some what understand

Answer 9

that's real simple.
if you truly care about him you simply say.....
stop drinking or i am gone!!!!!

let me tell you something. life is too short for someone to stay with an alcoholic. it always goes bad for the someone who cares.

the abuse will start if it has not already. then the police gets involved, and if that is not enough, then the person who cares begins to live a life of fear, persecution, and has their self motivation taken away from them. they will be embarrassed, discouraged and put down for even thinking about their well-being.

so the final line is if they care about you in the least, they will stop when you give them the ultimatum. if not just simply say goodbye.

Answer 10

Leave him until hes sober. I lost 2 wonderful woman in my life cause I wouldnt quit drinking I am sorry to this day I Quit!

Answer 11

YOU CANNOT CONTROL AND DICTATE WHAT THIS MAN WILL DO. YOU SAY HE HAS STOPPED. THAT'S SUPER. I HOPE HE STAYS THAT WAY. IF HE GETS BAD AGAIN, YOU NEED TO GIVE HIM THE ULTIMATUM. EITHER HE STOPS OR YOU LEAVE HIM. I LIVED WITH A MAN I DEARLY LOVED, BUT DRANK LIKE A FISH OVER THE WEEKENDS TO THE POINT OF ALCOHOL POISIONING. HOWEVER HE REFUSED TO STOP. I LEFT WITH THE KIDS AND THE LORD TOOK HIM. THIS WAS AFTER TWO AND HALF YEARS OF BEGGING AND PLEADING. GOOD LUCK AND STAND YOUR GROUND.