My boyfriends, very strict christian mom was cleaning up his room ( or so she says) and found a 12 pack of condoms with 7 missing. She called him frantic and screaming. She's hysterical and kicking him out of the house. We are both sophmore's in college almost 20. She really "liked" me. She probably hates me now. What should I do? I feel like I can never step foot in his house which sucks cause I was getting really close with his family. She's frantic and thinks we're awful. How can she ever just be okay with it? Or do I just have to stop?
2006-08-21 06:23:21 · 6 answers · asked by Janet R 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Well, technically you are adults although your BF still lives at his parents' house so you kind of have a catch 22 on your hands.
I'm a mom of a teenager, but I won't lecture you. I know teenagers have sex and your BFs mom should know that too. At least you are using protection. I'd be over joyed if I was his mom and saw that.
Anyway, if you don't live with your parents, maybe you can stick to your house. If you live at home too, maybe one or both of you can move into the dorm at school or get an apartment either together or with room mates.
Be respectful of his mom even when she isn't respectful of you, your BF or his privacy. You end up looking like the bigger person and eventually her opinion of you may soften. But you don't have to let her guilt you into not having sex. There is nothing wrong with sex between 2 adults. Just don't have it at BFs house and what mom doesn't know wont hurt her.
2006-08-21 06:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to make her comfortable with this. Your boyfriend can talk to her about it, but unless you are invited by both of them I would not get into it with her. It sucks to live in a society with such intolerence doesn't it? The bottom line is you 2 are both consenting adults and should be free to make your own decisions...but if he is living in his mother's home he should atleast be respectful of her and not perform premarital sex there. Remember honor thy mother and father. Just make sure you never do anything that would cause anyone to write anyone else out of their llife that is never a healthy way to live when it concerns family.
2006-08-21 13:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Passionfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, if you're both almost 20 and are using condoms and being safe, she has nothing to be screeching about. This is her hangup and you did nothing wrong. Maybe with time, she'll get over it, but I don't think you should cater to her or stop having sex.
2006-08-21 13:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Girl Wonder 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just sit down with her and be open with her. If you beat around the bush it just makes you look like a kid, and you aren't being honest. It is embaressing, but just be like, we are adults and the choices we make are our own. If you don't want us to be here in your house, then we can respect that. We love eachother and that is that. If she can't handle that, then get her a vibrator. Maybe she is just jealous.....lol! Good LUck tho!
2006-08-21 13:33:43 · answer #4 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are both adults she should get over it. She should be happy since hes using protection.
2014-08-04 20:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are adults then they have no right to tell you both what to do
I would get away from them if they are that controlling - yes they have their beliefs and have the right to share them with both of you but they don't have the right to be abusive
2006-08-21 13:31:14 · answer #6 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋