I dated my husband for 3 years and nine months and it was a joyous time, my realtive is getting married later in life in age and she is so thrilled and in love and so is he.
But now I am married almost 13 years and it is commonplace, we agrue, I get irritated at him he gets irrated at me, it seems like even though we have a good marraige it is not a honeymoon anymore we have been married a long time.
Sometimes the intamcay love etc "wears off" but we do have a very strong friendship. How does one keep the devotion going?
2006-08-21 06:22:18 · 8 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
marriage is commitment for the rest of your lives. You will live out all of the vows during a marriage. All of your days wont FEEL honeymoonish, but you still have to work at staying committed. Yes. It is true that after time goes by, you dont FEEL like you did when you were dating, but marriage is not a feeling. You promised each other that you would be together til death do you part and you will experience many things during that time.
Make a daily commitment to your spouse that you will remain committed and devoted to your relationship. It is hard work but it is worth it.
2006-08-21 06:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must always remember that the absolute most important thing in a monotonous, I mean monogamous, relationship comes in the form of a three-fold sage answer.
Devote yourself to these vital, marriage saving steps.
Starting with number one-
1- Eat more chips with dips
(bean dip makes everyone happy and is actually used as an
anti-depressant in some south American countries)
2- Remember "Life is like a box of chocolates" and sometimes your life is the chocolate with the orange or green stuff in it that no one likes, sorry 'bout your luck.
and finally number
3- Upgrade your TV satellite or cable system to as many channels as you can possibly get and sit back on the sofa; where you'll hopefully go numb watching As the World Turns, the Price is Right, or Big Brother 28,000 (the Revenge of Little Brother) etc.
with your new friend Chip and Dip by your side.
P.S.- You are very likely to weep silently from time to time, this is normal, however do not weep into your bean dip because it is already very high in sodium and your salty tears of disillusionment will spoil the flavor
(and possibly negate the rumored medicinal affect- see #1 above)
2006-08-21 14:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by Steven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why it seems that way is because God honors marriage whether you are a believer in Christ or not. Satan hates marriage because marriage on earth is supposed to be the model of the relationship between Christ and the Church as a whole. This is why as long as you are not committed or single and just dating, the devil does not bother you but as soon as you committ, he throws everything at you that he can. That is why it is so important for married people to pray together - often. Cover each other in prayer when you are apart and study Ephesians chapter 6...Malachi chapter 2...Song of Solomon...
2006-08-21 13:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by ajhunter3824 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first few years are always the best, of COURSE the honeymoon wore off, it always does, the question is do you want a honeymoon for the rest of your life or love? The devotion keeps going because of a deeper kind of love
2006-08-21 13:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is work, people tend to forget that and stop putting in the time, energy, and effort. It is easy to get "too comfortable" with your spouse so it's even more important that we keep it up. Guys are also conquerors...most not all...but they like to have a goal and then reach it. Upon reaching it, they sort of lose interest and that can be applied to marriage and courtship. That is the sad truth. It doesn't help that people are always looking to have exciting and new things in their lives to help sustain their fleshly desires because they get bored easily.
2006-08-21 13:55:30 · answer #5 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is a temporary state of mind. Marriage is for a lifetime. You know til death do us part. When you realize that you will be this person forever that's when reality sets in. Dating you can walk out anytime and not have to go through a legal situation.
2006-08-21 13:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we start taking each other for granted after awhile. If we make a conscious effort not to do that it could help.
2006-08-21 13:36:43 · answer #7 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when uare dating u are in hurry to sell the goods !
after marriage u are in hurry to shut the goodawon.
2006-08-21 13:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by macline k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋