Basically what happened is this; neighbours made false complaints, (noise, explosives, etc.) after finding out that their neighbour (my boyfriend) was gay. The management, has to accept these complaints, and act upon them accordingly. Their resolution, was to kick out my boyfriend's mom and him. Now, my boyfriend's mom, made an agreement, that if she kicks out her 16 year old son, she can stay, however, she is doing nothing to help her son. Infact, she is harming him, by burning the only helpful connections he has (ie. his father, and other relatives) by saying things like he hits her and stuff, because she is mad at him, not only for being gay, but for getting her kicked out. Do you think that this is acceptable? Should a mother not try to help their child, and possibly make a sacrifice?
2006-08-21 06:15:58 · 27 answers · asked by Dwayne Sullivan, Edmonton, AB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes a mother should make a sacrifice! I would rather live on the street with my son then in a home with out! You're child should be your meaning of life. Lets don't even relate to the fact that he is gay because that shouldn't change anything. If she does kick her son out it would be something that she will have to live with the rest of her life and soon she will be an old lady with lots of regrets
2006-08-26 11:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by aly_girl501 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This all sounds a bit fishy to me. A landlord does not have to kick anyone out for false complaints. In fact, it can be very difficult to evict someone even when the complaints are real. I don't think you are getting the full story here.
Of course a good mother should make sacrifices for her child and protect that child the best she can. Obviously not all mothers are good mothers. So, if your story is true, she is a bad mother.
Saying so doesn't help your boyfriend at all, however. What were you hoping from this question?
2006-08-21 06:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a situation anyone would be happy to move away from. This mom has batsin her bellfry....if she were right thinking, she would know that there will be irreversible damage to her son's self-esteem if she chooses and apartment over him (!). But she's not right thinking or she wouldn't even consider this and ask a 16 year old girlfriend to take on this kind of emotional burden.
I would recommend strongly that your friend talk to counselors at school, church, or the Boys and Girls Club to get help from an adult who has his interests at heart. If his father is a good influence he would have already removed the child from this home if he were able to (it may be a custody issue). But I promise you that there is no court in the land who would let this mother keep this child, belittle and blame him for her own substantial problems, and deny the ability for him to live with other relatives or friends who can provide him a stable or loving environment.
This is too big a burden for a 16 year old girl, my friend. Ask your parents to call the school, or the appropriate authorities, to ensure that your boyfriend gets the help and support he needs (and while you may love him with all your heart, he is in no condition emotionally to be rational about loving you back. Love him as a friend and help him find the best solution FOR HIM - even if it means moving away....and the rest will work out. He needs stability and to be away from this chaos. Please help him seek the counsel of adults who will intervene. He is being abused and neglected; he is at risk for dangerous behaviors. He deserves better....and you both should be focussing on being young adults, on school and on self-development - not on the managment of the apartment complex. This is what they call a "tempest in a teapot" - a little storm in a small place, but one that indicates a greater degree of dysfunctionality that you cannot - nor can he - fix alone. Best of luck.
2006-08-21 06:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think parents should do everything they can to help their kids! If she knows the complaints were filed just to have her "gay" son removed from the apartment then she should be happy to move into a new home where the lifestyle of her son is neither a concern of anyone but himself nor such an offense to others that they want him gone.
If she really wants to stay by having him move then she should be a helpful as possible to find him a place of his own and live there. Like wise she should love her son and respect his choices as his and not hold them against him.
If he moves then how will that sever ties with the rest of his family can't he stay in contact with them on his own? Calls letters visits etc?
I wish you two the best of luck and that it all works out for the best.
2006-08-21 06:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by Alpha Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it's illegal to kick someone out because they are gay. If his mom is considering it then she is not a good mom. Tell her to take the management to court make the people who complained face her in court. The burden of proof will be on them to prove their complaints.
2006-08-21 06:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really is hard. the female is both very depressed or only lazy. She is conscious she needs to stumble on a thanks to make a residing. How old is your boyfriend? If he's satisfactorily old to artwork, it truly is going to be as a lot as him to get available and produce in some funds. in case you commence via handing them funds, you're only allowing her to proceed in this way. i particularly imagine the purely way you may want to be of help, is to stay out of it. shop your self secure.
2016-11-05 07:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no this is not okay. if i were him i would try to contact some family planning services, glaad or whatever may be in the area. it may not even be legal for her to kick him out because of his age. do these relatives really believe her? shouldn't she have some marks if he were beating her and are the relatives thinking about that fact?
2006-08-21 06:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my daughter was gay, that would not change the way i love her, i may not like the fact but i would not treat her differently or love her less. it is wrong of his mother to do that. i dont understand how someone could do their child like that. just be there for him and let him know that you will help anyway you can. he really needs you now that he is being treated like crap by his own mom.
2006-08-21 06:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off there has to be a police report for stuff like that to make a eviction and second if they are doing this because they found out he's gay then your boyfriend can sue. for sexual discrimination. I seek a lawyer if there are no police reports.
2006-08-21 06:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is child abuse on her part. Call child welllfare. They will help him find a home and whatever else he needs until he graduates. his mother is a jack a ss. Maybe it's best he is away from her. She doen't sound very protective. Or loving.
2006-08-21 06:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by pinkrosegreeneyes bluerose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋