Do you really beleive God will only give you what you can handle?

Question

I hate the saying God will only give you what you can handle, because many times life is hard to handle and at times unbearable. What is something encouragin to say to someone going thruogh a hard time? One thing I will say Never give anyone advise unless you are willing to go through it yourself.

Answer 1

This is a handy saying that I used often in my life, and that was of enormous help. However, big time undeserved tragedy in my life proved it wrong, so I will never again think it is true.

An encouraging statement to someone going thru unbearable times might be "this is not forever", "this will pass", but now that I type it out, I see where these cliches can also make things worse. Better yet, distract the person with small talk, then talk about their problem and possible solutions if they bring up these issues.

Answer 2

Yes I do believe that...

But I also believe that there are exceptions to every rule.

The reason I feel there are exceptions to every rule is because life is not about family or friends of money or property like some people mystify themselves into believing.

Life is about teaching the soul to be human and the human to know it's soul. Sometimes through distraction and the way that we all run faster than our own minds sometimes so as never to have to actually ever have to DEAL with anything... A lot of us avoid our fate and therefore have these seemingly awful things happen to us that we can't understand from a human place because we can't fathom things on a spiritual level.

I think sometimes we all need a swift kick in the ***... Some listen better than others, some have easier lessons. Plain and simple. And as far as losing people and loved ones... Every soul is an individual part of a whole and each part has its own road to travel, its own karma so to speak and what we do not understand here, we will come to know there. The body dies... the soul never will and we will all be rejoined into the whole with a conceptual understanding of all of it... someday, as for now... we continue to experience and learn...

Death is not the end of anything because the spirit, like God, is ever and always...

Answer 3

EXACTLY!!! You hit it right on the head. Believe me...you'll hear all kinds of things on here and out in the real world from people who seem to know about everything or judge people when they have no clue. I made a point that we had financial problems and had a question. I heard "get a job you lazy bum" and all kinds of things like that. Our problems stemmed from a drug addicted son (heroin) who stole everything from us; I had breast cancer; my husband fell on his back 8' onto concrete; we lost our home...it goes on and on (plus I am 48 years old an have worked since I was 12) but see......the other person writing that statement had NO IDEA and just decided by my question that I didn't work and that I was a lazy bum. OMG. No...people don't know unless they've walked in the sames shoes along the same path. We've come close to being homeless (hard working people who should be almost retiring and I'm still always afraid of that)..and people judge homeless people as bums not KNOWING what really put them there. No one knows unless they ask -- it's easier for them to just ASSUME -- because that way THEY don't have to take any of the pain on themselves by feeling bad for someone else. I don't know about that statement being true either. If that was the case, then why is there so much suicide? Suicide is an idication of mental issues or the fact someone can't handle life anymore. So........??????

Answer 4

Actually I believe God will not give you too much He can not handle through you. Remember, it is in our weakness that He is made strong. Life is very overwhelming and has many tough choices and hard circumstances. The only way we can get through is not by our strength but by the strength that God gives us. I see that God is always there in our lives desiring for us to depend upon Him. We should come to a place in our life and circumstances where we focus more on our response to our circumstances than our circumstances. Just by living we can know we will have tough circumstances. How we respond to our tough times can make a huge difference on whether we are reflecting the Love of Christ or not.

Concerning your comment about giving advice I would use the passage in 2 Cor. 1:3-4, "

Answer 5

Yes, God will not give you something that you can't handle. Well, some things seem very overwhelming, but God will give us the strength and grace that we need, if we ask him.

You're right about not giving someone advice unless you're
willing to go through it yourself. That's so good, cuz many people spout out their knowledge and advice, but are cowards when a problem arises in their own life.

As for advice to give someone, just let them know that you are praying for them (if they would be offended by prayer, tell them you are thinking of them).

Answer 6

yes, I got to a point in my life when I asked the same question because I thought I couldn't handle everything that was going on. I just found out I was pregnant, the father ran away, I got in a car accident, I was stuck in a lease that I couldn't afford on my own, I had thousand of dollars in medical bills, and other bills bills bills. And you know what, everything ended up going just fine. Always keep this saying in mind "all things work together for good" because even when you're in such a big mess you think you'll never make it out, eventually, there will be a good side to all of it! I promise.

Answer 7

I agree that you should never give advise that you are not willing to follow. But I trully do believe that God only gives us what we can handle. We may not believe that at the time we are going through it but it is true. "And what does not kill us will only make us stronger." I have no idea who said it. But I believe it also. I also believe that "This to shall pass" There will be something else but it will be different. Although you may not want to tell them the last part.

Answer 8

Yes, I really do believe that God will not give you burdens to big for you to handle. And yes, sometimes it seems like a bigger compliment than you want to take, but it all depends on perspective. These are the times we are challenged to use and strengthen our faith, not to falter in it. Sometimes there is no good advice you can give someone, but you can always offer encouragement, you can always be right there with them, letting them cry on your shoulder... of if you're me, you may just cry with them. We can't all be like Job, but we always have prayer. There is always something you can do about a situation. Give it to God. Maybe that should be your advice. There is nothing you can't handle if you give it to God. We tend to make it harder on ourselves than necessary cuz we want to figure things out for ourselves. That's where we make the mistake and start doubting that with man these things are impossible, but with God all things are possible!

Answer 9

Being one of those people who says this about every day.I have to believe that God has a hand in all circumstances of our lives.I recently lost a granddaughter at two weeks old.Then my Mother who i was caring for died with lung cancer.Then my marrige of 20 years.Did I question God? Yes,over and over.But did he give me more than i could handle?I guess not.I am still holding on. Thank-you God

Answer 10

Yes I do, he means that because he knows that you will get through it. He will never give u anything that you can't handle. Even though there may be tough times in life it will not always be that way forever. Keep the Faith. Love don't Hate.