Married almost 5 years
Happily in love
Girl is a friend of his.
I have had discussion with him about her crush and set limits with him, which he says he is okay with, but I am not so sure.
I have even gone places with them both.
2006-08-21 05:58:38 · 20 answers · asked by silly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She is 24
My husband is 32
She is also married.
2006-08-21 07:00:43 · update #1
there is a reason he is encouraging it, he must stop the friendship cause she wont stop coming on to him, she dont care about you cause if she did she would know your man is off limits
2006-08-21 06:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is the girl going anywhere with your husband. If she is spending alone time with your husband of course she is going to develop a crush. Your husband should know better and not encourage this type of behavior. And by all means stop going anywhere with her even if you go. I know that friendships should not end because you got married but they will have to change. They both need to adjust to change and act accordingly. Good luck.
2006-08-21 06:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this is a tough one and since you neglected to say the age of both it very hard to predict. How much trust do you have in your husband, do you trust her, Might be time to do more than just set limits, tell your husband this, ask him to quash it before it completely develops into an affair. Good luck
2006-08-21 06:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep an eye on it but don't worry too much. Men a women can be just friends and are you sure this is a crush not just a friend whose flirty? I have a few guy friends that are real flirts and they get plenty of action from other girls but my husband has nothing to worry about from me. And he works with all girls at the bar and they all are flirts but I trust him as well as them. It's easy to get jealous over a simple relationship and imagine it's more, but if you trust your husband then rest at ease.
If it really bothers you then talk to her one on one. If it only fules your suspisions then ask him to quiet this friendship with her.
2006-08-21 06:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by Alpha Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it, if she could have him, then why would you want to keep him? Men love ALL attention, no matter where it comes from. Of course he is gonna incourage her behavior, because it makes him feel good, like he's still got it goin on. You have been married to this man for five years, you shouldnt have to feel you need to compete with some girl for his attention. Lay the law down, tell him to tell her straight out, in front of you, that her behaviour makes you feel uncomfortabe and that you just dont plain like it and she needs to stop, now. She will see that she has nothing to gain and hopefully quit.
2006-08-21 06:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by trebobnagrom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their are several of women who have a crush on me but I can't help it... It may seem that I encourage it a little but I am just being friendly. If a woman takes it as something else than that's on her... My wife sometimes gets jealous but she knows I love her and she trusts me to always stay faithful. I have always been a ladies man but when I met my wife, I gave all of that up. It is nice to know that I still got it.
2006-08-21 07:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just wrong. Your husband is a jerk for allowing this to happen - he must crave attention and be very immature to let another woman flirt with him and be married. I'm not sure what you should do - my husband doesn't do things like this and I am so grateful!!!
2006-08-21 06:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love him you should take an action before it gets late because you wake up one day and see your husband isnt next to you the best way is to have a long travel with him about 2 week or longer and in this period dont let him be in contact with her
2006-08-21 06:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by negar g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a lot more going on and you are being played the fool. Basically he has his mistress going along with his wife to events. They would not be friends if there was nothing going on. It spells trouble. What do you think you should do about it?
2006-08-21 06:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave her alone with your man, ever!
Exclude her from your social gatherings.
Have a single male friend? Set them up so she will be off your h back.
If she gets to close for comfort tell her straight to her face: back off biAtch or else!
Good luck
2006-08-21 06:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋