I STILL LOV HER SO WHY DO I THINK ABOUT MESSING AROUND ON HER ? IS IT TO HURT HER ?I TRULY THINK shes loves me more now then b4 .it would b so easy to give her her payback.
2006-08-21 05:53:21 · 22 answers · asked by JOHN B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know how hurt you felt when it happend to you. Do you really want to inflict pain like that on your wife? When people mess up they ask for forgiveness. Marriage is not tit for tat. You compromise. She will probably never mess up on you again. You are a very caring individual since you are thinking about the consequences before you act on what you do. I don't believe it will be worth it to you.
2006-08-21 06:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I know how you feel and appreciate that 100%. However if that is what you are thinking about then maybe you haven't forgiven her. Honestly being able to let go and forgive someone is really hard to do.
But if you cant let go 100%, I'm not saying forget, just forgive, then it may be time to reanalyze and look at a separation.
Do you know why she did it? You might need to explore that and then find out if maybe you two need to take a break from one another for a while to see if you still even want to be together.
2006-08-21 06:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think about cheating because your hurt an you want her to hurt as much as you do inside. But just know that cheating will not take away the hurt it will only add to it. Am sure you still love her an want things to work it's just that you can't forget the pain of another having something that was so close to you. but keeping all that hurt inside will only cause more pain in your healing stage with her . you don't have to forget but you told her you wanted to forgive when you said you would try to work things out so some how you have to forgive your self for feeling let down an build yourself to fall in love with her to trust again. BUT let her know she is on secret double probation lol but if you want it then make it happen an don't be mad at yourself for wanting to be with her an the feeling to cheat will go away an you guys should be ok
2006-08-21 06:21:02 · answer #3 · answered by jeffrey h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So okay, perhaps she owes you one. Do you really want to use that marker so soon. Did you forget how that felt when you found out? Do you think that it will make that pain go away? Let me tell you it won't. It is unlikely that this kind of payback would allow your marriage to survive. I know from experience that that thought
will cross your mind frequently. To act on it would mean an end to life as you know it. Resist the urge because it won't help.
2006-08-21 06:07:07 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIve her payback, and then divorce her. Anyone that will do it once will do it again. She started it and you resent it... It will never work between you two if you are having feelings of payback.. She is NO GOOD... Divorce her! Find a woman that would never do that to you.
2006-08-21 06:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by johncharlesrealty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs have never made it right. I am sure you are deeply hurt by what she has done but trying to make her feel the same pain you did is not a solution. I hope you get past this. Good luck!
2006-08-21 06:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember 2 wrongs dont make a right!
And the fact that you want to turn it around on her, tells me that you really havent forgiven her! If you want your marriage to survive this try to focus on really forgiving her instead of planing out in your mind on how you could pay her back if you wanted 2!
2006-08-21 06:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by connys1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're thinking about revenge, to get even. However, two wrongs don't make a right. Try to love her the same way you did before. If she truly regrets what she did, you'll see evidence of it.
2006-08-21 07:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you recall how you felt when she cheated on you to wrongs don't make a right and just because you forgave her don't mean she will forgive you don't play this game I know revenge can be sweet but at what cost? move on and try to have a healthy marriage not one fill with distrust
2006-08-21 06:23:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in to cheat on her. Forgive her and move on. If you cheat on her, you will wind up getting a divorce. The trust on both your parts will be gone.
2006-08-21 06:17:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋