i have been with my fella 8yrs we have 2 kids my youngest is 3, so i cant blame that, but our sex life is poor, i never feel in the mood. i love him very much and it has got to the point that were falling out over it. im 24 yrs old so any suggestions on how i can spice it up
2006-08-21 05:40:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Being tired doesn't help & also knowing that your kids are in the next room. It's hard to turn off being "mum" and become the sexy girl you were 8 years ago.
Try and get away for the night or have someone look after the kids for the whole night.
When your kids are around theres not much time for foreplay, and us girls need plenty of this to get us in the mood, unlike men.
Get some sex toys in and play games, blindfold him and concentrate on every part of his body while he's blindfolded and vice versa.
Good luck and enjoy yorselves.
P.s This is a problem with us and we have started filming ourselves lately which definitely spiced things up again. Good to watch again to get you in the mood next time.
2006-08-21 05:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most recommended solution that I have heard of (and tried) is the 'no sex' method.
You make a deal with a partner (having discussed that you have problems and want to fix it before hand) that you will not have sex, you are only allowed to touch, stroke, massage or cuddle each other.
That method is useful if you have been starting to get stressed and feel pressured about sex. You just have a massage etc and fall asleep together , which helps you feel close again, then you can consider the sexual side.
Of course you feel tired with two kids, one of which is little, maybe he could help you a little more so you have more energy for sex.
If you love and feel attracted to him, but can't face sex, why not move the massage onto stimulating him, oil hand relief or oral sex.
For yourself, why not discover what turn you on - surf for erotic fiction or treat yourself to feel sexy.
Its best not to try and 'lie back' as I'm sure you know already. Tell him you love him.
2006-08-21 05:58:01 · answer #2 · answered by Rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See you doctor even if he is male, folk get like this in there lives. I bought a waterbed but the wife and I were drifting further and futher apart. Chin up dear, you have alot more than some couple have. Sexy underware or toy's may help in the short term.
Good luck!
2006-08-21 06:29:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a date. Wednesday night, for example. Go and buy a good bottle of wine and a sexy nightie. Get a film - as spicy as you like. And make it a regular date - every Wednesday night you're going to make love. You'll find yourself looking forward to it if you're not under pressure to have sex.
2006-08-21 06:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm 26 and been with mine for 6 yrs and no kids but we go like this take him out dress up make yourself feel sexy and just go with the flow it will come back promise
2006-08-23 04:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by munchie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have got bored of the same old thing, try having sex in different places, in the back garden is good, that should give you a thrill.
2006-08-21 05:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come round to my house.. I`m hung like a Donkey!
2006-08-21 05:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by mrckent2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get one of your friends to come along and get very drunk with you both. I guarantee he'll be back on you in a flash.
2006-08-21 05:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by Rudebox77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a porn-o and toys. But I bet if you put it all out in front of him you wouldn't need those things.
2006-08-21 05:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by drunken monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by in the net very cheap just type the word
2006-08-23 05:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋