He's been married for 38 years.He's 56 and im 35. YES i love him but i don't think there's a future at all.
2006-08-21 05:37:54 · 61 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, No and NO. He does not love you!! If he should leave his wife and marry you it will be just what you need because then you will be the wife and he will have a honey on the side. Wake up and smell the dirty thing you are doing before it is too late.
2006-08-21 05:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by papricka w 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should leave him. It will be hard, especially if you have fallen in love.
Think about it, he has been married for 38 years. You will never find anyone that will leave after 38 years. They have too much invested. Children (maybe), stock, retirement, homes, land.... if that is involved. If he is unhappy, even at this point, it is cheaper to keep her, so he will never leave.
He is just having his cake and eating it too. And he is doing that because you are letting him.
Don't let him do this to you. You are young, and you can find someone who can do way more that this married man can do for you.
Ask yourself, what are you really getting out of this relationship. Is he coming home to you? Are you on any of his insurance or retirements plans? What are you establishing with him? If you answer no to any of these questions, then you have to leave and not waste any more of your time.
You will fall in love again. With the right person.
2006-08-21 06:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by WANDERER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like this man you've been dating for 2 years has been married for quiet sometime now and loves his family very much being married for 38 years is a long time affair. Mabe he's not getting the attention he needs at home, maybe him and his wife are having problems witch that could involve alot of things, but doesn't mean that he doesn't love her either.
No matter how long you are married everyone are gona have their ups and downs "that's life". Dating someone that is married and knowing it................isn't right although there are alot of people that does these kind of things for what ever reasons. Think if his wife found out what you were doing that probley would be very hurtful to her and when things like this happens it causes family breakups like "Divorce" it's even worse if children are involved because children get pulled apart between the parents.
If he is doing this to his wife "cheeting" on her..................then what makes you think that he isn't gona do the same thing to you? I'm not picking on you so, please don't think that I am I just laying out the facts of life to ya and hopefully it will give you something to ponder about.
Should you continue to date this man who's been married for 38 years..................you can do what you want to and what ever makes you both happy vicea, versa. I can say for myself like if it were me the answer would be "No". I would get out of it before the relationship got any further and before your feelings got hurt.
2006-08-21 06:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sheila N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question should be do you feel like being a sex toy for a married man. Face it girl if hes married and and still fooling around with you then your nothing but a free booty call. Leave him. you can do better. Locking yourself up into a dead end relationship wont get you a husband it will just leave you old and gray. by then no one will want you. at 35 your already close to end of your child birth years so if you don't find someone serious about you and marry you. you might not be able to have children with him. Good luck to you . Hope you find someone who truly love you and not just using you.
2006-08-21 05:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff L 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right...there is NO future with him in any way other than seeing him when HE wants. At 38, you do not have time to waste on a relationship like this. You need to determine where you are going, and if you are going with someone or alone. This type of relationship is fine if all you want is sex...then go for it, knowing full well that you run the chance of destroying his wife IF she finds out. Given enough time, she will find out. Even if he left her for you, there is no reason to think that he would be any truer to you than he is or has been to her. You are on a dead end street that leads to heartache....not a good career choice. But I do wish you the best luck.
2006-08-21 05:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It has taken you to long to figure out there is not future for you and him. If you are fine with the fact that there is no future then you should continue. Married men will tell a single women anything to get her to fall in love with them. Then he has the convenience of her apartment(not having to find a cheap motel).
He has a woman he knows wants a future with him. He will tell her what he thinks she wants to hear. 1) My wife won't divorce me. 2) Financially, not is not a good time. 3) I am staying for the kids. 4) I love my wife, but I am not in love with her. 5) She cheated on me and hurt me real bad so we do our own thing.
Most married men have no plan on leaving their wife. They just like to cheat. How many holidays have you spent alone? That is how it will continue to be. How many times has he been there for you if you have been sick? Would you have been with this man if he had told you that he was happy in his marriage but just wanted some on the side? Just remember that actions speak louder than words. Men play the game and that is all it is to married men!!!!
2006-08-21 05:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What R U doing hanging around waiting 4 his Mrs 2 die?
Married men R off limits, U fool/glutton 4 punishment.
UR a woman, U must understand what that sort of betrayal feels like?
Why do it 2 URself or his wife?
Now finish it 2day, move on & find a man U can call UR own, not 1 already spoken 4.
2006-08-21 05:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you date a married man.......if you were married would you like it if you husband dated someone else for 2 years after you have been with him for 38 years?
If you don't see a future then why hang around? Let him go be with his wife where he is supposed to be anyway.
2006-08-21 05:44:58 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer_spanky2002 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your dating a married man. Hello! Do you think something is wrong with that picture?
Find a man not married out there. You will be happier in the long run and you might even find your sole mate. You wont find anything dating a jerk. Notice I said jerk. Married people dating other than their spouse are jerks that can never be trusted. NEVER.
Move on to a better life.
2006-08-21 05:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by Mit 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope, no future with him. He is using you and his wife. He's been married for 38 years he's not going to leave her now, especially when you've been around for 2 years. Wise up get out and get on with your life. You deserve a committed relationship with someone that wants only you.
2006-08-21 05:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋