Women. How does a man stand up to you? And make it stick?

Question

On average women talk 4 times more than men, so women obviously have the upper hand in verbal confrontations. Even if a man lays out a completely logical case, women are still able to dismiss it. Even when a woman agrees with the man (for the time being) if she really doesn't like it she will be passive aggresive in order to get her way. How is a man suppose to defeat this?

Answer 1

There shouldn't be a he says, she says confrontation. A relationship is suppose to be equal.
There should be communication between a couple. There should be respect between the two people.
If there is respect for one another in the relationship and communication then there will not be that type of confrontations.

Sit down and discuss the problem without the yelling and the name calling and the passive aggressive behavior.
Come to a compromise and then live by that compromise.

I am a firm believer in communication and a firm believer in compromise between a married couple.

After all this is the person you love, your partner, your soul mate.
Not your enemy or somebody that you can just ignore and make the problems go away.

Answer 2

Maybe women do talk on average 4 times more than men, but that doesnt mean they have the upper hand. Sounds to me like you are in a manipulative relationship, where your partner makes you feel she is always right. Not all women are the same. Good communication means listening and discussing....no-one has to be right...it is not a competition. Being in a good relationship means respecting the other persons point of view without pushing your own. The end result of this kind of relationship will be that you will shut up totally. Her dominance in conversations will eventually shut any kind of honest conversation down between the two of you. You will get to a point where you cant be bothered saying anything because nothing you say is ever listened to. I take it you are talking about the relationship you are in. Your woman is obviously a very dominant type person, but she can only have that kind of power over you if you let her. There are lots of ways to stop this kind of manipulation. The only person you can change is yourself...so you need to find other ways to get your point across. She needs to know your feelings are important as well. You do have the same kind of rights....marriage/long term relationships does not give one person more power than the other.

Answer 3

I wish that I can laugh, but this is actually sad.

What you say is true . . . in arguements . . . men usually use logic, while women are emotional in their arguements. This is why it is difficult to win, straight out arguement.

Women make a scene and get everyone involved, describing the man as an uncaring simpleton . . . a person who cares about nothing but himself. In most cases, this is not true . . . but most women are NBLs (natural born liars) - I know I am going to have a few women protesting . . . and I will clearly state . . . I have proven my case time and time again with facts, so don't try.

Women are like children . . . they manipulate men with their emotions. Where do you think children learn temper tantrums . . . from women (because they do it to their men).

How do you break temper tantrum children? Not by hitting, but by keeping to your guns . . . and say no. And if necessary take away some privileges. Same thing with women . . . if she tries to be passive aggressive (the politically correct term for a temper tantrum). Sit her down . . . talk to her . . . and tell her that you know what she is doing . . . it is not going to work. And that you were planning something special this weekend, and because of her attitude . . . you are canceling it (because you don't want to hang out with a spoiled brat).

As for women dismissing a logical arguement . . . they don't . . . when they know they know they can't win, they don't dismissed it . . . they ignore it. Telling you . . . you haven't said a thing that meant (emotionally) anything.

Tell her simply . . . do you want an equal relationship . . . then you pay for dinner 50% of the time, no gifts unless it is an equal exchange . . . and I don't mean jewelry for you and a tie for me . . . be equal and not cheap. Why else do you thing women rarely bring credit cards on dates or when they shop with a man. Because they expect him to pay of it. No . . . you want equality . . .have it.

Answer 4

Well you can always say that you need to think about what she is saying and will get back to her. See women have the ability to multi task while men rarely do. So women can talk about many things at once and know what they are talking about while men catch maybe a third. Women like to talk about their feelings, not always asking what could be changed or how to change it. So if she is complaining ask her how she wants it fixed. Or how do you suppose we go about this, what can make it better. Since she is most likely just telling you things you do wrong or things that irritates her, this will throw her off and possibly give you time to think. So always ask even if you think she is wrong, because you can always ask her too.
hope this helps somewhat. many women are crazy.

Answer 5

Men need to state their case and walk away. Nothing is worse for a woman than to get that silent treatment. It gives us time to think and usually we end up apologizing because more times than not we are being irrational and don't realize it until we are out of the heat of the moment. That and we hate it when you are mad at us. Women will walk all over you if you let us. We really don't want to be the boss. We are just good at it.

Answer 6

lol...that's funny...a lot of guys haven't got it down yet. It really depends on the woman. Me and my husband "bicker" all the time...but when he gets REALLY serious he gets this look in his eye, his tone changes, and he flat out says "This is the way it's gonna' be or you can pack your sh** and get the fu** out." (Or something similar....it's not really the words....it's the look and the tone of his voice). That sounds a lot more harsh than it really is. It's usually over petty stuff that we have been arguing about for weeks and he just finally gets fed up about it. I do the same thing to him when he is being stupid about something. Sometimes a man just has to put a woman in her place, and vice versa. It definitely works both ways.

Answer 7

I had a girl like that. I found that things started to clear up when I changed my perspective on things.
i.e. I started to look less at what was good for us, or her, and look more at what was good for me. When you start to gear your thoughts a different way, what you notice and how things happen will change around you. Eventually you'll be able to look at a situation and say: "This is great for you, but nothing but a pain in the neck for me, and I won't be a part of it anymore." She'll listen or dump you.

Answer 8

Wouldn't know, have always gotten my way..he,he...just kidding. I guess it depends on the situation. What men don't realize is that something may be very "logical" to them but sometimes logic has nothing to do with it and emotions win over logic. Since men have such a hard time with emotion, they lose. Sometimes it doesn't matter what you know as much as what you feel.

Answer 9

Be more stubborn. Just keep by it. If she doesn't submit, dump her. Be the man, and be a bigger pig head than she is. Don't over talk the situation. Tell her once and tell her straight. This is not for discussion! I mean, if she tried to explain why it's okay for her to whore around, would you accept it? No. You just have to feel strongly about it, and be serious.

Answer 10

I am sorry, mate, but you can not baet us.
Whilst we are aware that when we loose our tempers we are emotional, irrational people we are also aware that in this state we are visious, spitefull and all power full beings.
My hubby walks away, telling me i am being stupid and nasty, and waits until i have calmed down and am feeling a little ashamed of my self, cuasing me to say sorry.
If he argues with me, he is going down.
He nos this.