Sometimes my wife says she wishes I was more romantic. I've always sucked at romance. I think it involves flowers, chocolate, candles, and maybe a massage? What should I do? What's romance in your opinion?
2006-08-21 05:21:22 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's more an emotional thing. Face it, flowers die and chocolate only lasts for so long. So it's about spending quality time with her, focusing all your attention on her, listening to her, and offering a shoulder to cry on, yes giving her a massage or a foot rub, etc. A picnic or a short getaway, a walk where you could talk couldnt hurt either. The idea is to focus on her and let her know that you're sensitive to her emotional needs.
Also remember, that it's quality not quantity when it comes to time.
2006-08-21 05:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said ladies but how about a guy's opinion? First of all the flowers and all of that are necessary and expected at certain times but that is not what it's all about. So many guys think that that stuff is romance. What women mean about being romantic is you being in touch with your own feelings enough to be comfortable in expressing them. So you look at her and wonder how you got so lucky, you just being this guy, to be with this wonderful and beutiful person. Of all of the people in the world she picked you. This is the feeling that you need to get in touch with and express as that is romance. It's there... you just need to tell her. She wants to know and be reminded that she is no holds barred the most important person in your life. Not doing something like flowers on Valentines Day, all of the time. Tough day at work? just call and say I love you for a minute. At home doing whatnot and she's doing something else? Just go by her, hug her and say love you so much and go back to what you were doing. That is all it take's. Letting her know she is the one and that she is always in your thoughts no matter what you do.
2006-08-21 13:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the most romantic things that I did for my husband...I didn't think he would like it, but he loved it.
While he was at work one day (and I was off of course), after I had finished doing my housework for the day, I took a shower, dressed up for him, fixed my hair the way he liked it, cooked a very well thought out dinner for him, lit some long candles on the table, and put an invitation on the door so he could see it as soon as he came to the door. The invitation said: "You're Invited!!!" on the outside. When he opened it up, it said: "You're invited to spend a romantic night with your wife. The time is now and the when is tonight. To accept this invitation all you have to do is open the door."
I had the table perfectly set. After we finished feeding each other chocolate turtle pie, I told him I was going to change. He sat there at the table. I went and changed into a nightie that he had never seen me where before. Then I called him into the bedroom where I had everything staged.
There was soft music playing and the room was lit with candle light.
Cost of food: $0.00
Cost of candles: $0.00
Look on his face when we were done: Priceless
2006-08-21 12:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by dollfacedbaby1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I wish more men asked this question. Romance is telling your wife everyday that you love her. When she is doing the dishes or on the computer come up behind her and kiss her neck. Tell her how much you appreciate everything she does for you. Do little odd jobs around the house without her asking you too. Rub her back or her feet before she falls asleep. If you have kids, offer to take care of them for the night so she can relax and watch her fav. movie or read her fav. book. Things like that are more romantic then flowers or chocs.
2006-08-21 12:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by sadeyes99_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fall into the hype of what Hallmark tells you is romance. You don't have to do all that. What if she doesn't like chocolate and is allergic to flowers? Then that stuff doesn't apply. In my opinion, romance is going out of your way to show her that you really know what she likes and making an effort to do it. For example, if she likes antiques, plan a weekend for just the two of you where you go antiquing. If she likes flowers, then take her to your neighborhood botanical garden. If she likes jewelry, then maybe you can take a jewelry making class together.
Just do something that shows her you truly love her and understand her.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-21 12:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by MelTing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Boy! Romance is not just the material things. Its just little things that makes your wife very very happy. What makes me very very happy is every once in a while a little I love you or talk about old times like Remember when.... It can also be holding hands or a hug walk or telling her how much she means to you. Its not mushy its just showing her you appreciate her. Its the glass of water that you get her after you had an arguement because you know that she is as thirsty as you are. It can be a little kiss here just out of the blue. I hope that helps.
2006-08-21 12:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by devilskitten2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
romance doesn't need to cost money. Try making a homemade dinner for the both of you. sit down w/her and read some love poems. it's the simple pleasures of life!
2006-08-21 12:44:00 · answer #7 · answered by daisie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes romance can be as simple as showing some unexpected tender loving care.
2006-08-21 12:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing something special or out of the ordinary "just because" instead of "just because it's expected".
2006-08-21 12:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it cost money, it is less romantic!!
2006-08-21 12:28:07 · answer #10 · answered by nat_00420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋