baby shower (which was postponed because of some things that happened) but she told her mother that I cancelled it and we weren't going to have one. I already bought prizes, researched for games, food, we were going to rent a place -- I've put time and money into it already (and I'm not rich). NOW she says "forget it - you can go to my mom's) which is 2 hours away and I don't even care for this woman (she's been in jail for violent behavior before and all). Now, what am I supposed to do? I'm really upset. I still planned on having the shower and now this girl doesn't want me to give it. So, let's say I plan it anyway and I go 2 hours away to her mother's shower too, do I also bring ANOTHER gift after all this on top of it? I already look bad because it had to be rescheduled (and I'm SURE her mom told people who are going to attend hers about what happened). Am I wrong to be upset about this? They (son and fiance) live with us too and know how we're struggling with money. 2 questions.
2006-08-21 05:21:22 · 6 answers · asked by butterfliesRfree 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
2 questions:
Am I wrong to be upset about this and also, do I need to bring another gift? I already look bad. If I show up empty handed, I'll look worse. I can't afford all this.
2006-08-21 05:22:07 · update #1
look bad? well if she said no then it's no. if you want to go to the shower,go.if you do not want to go don't.the items you purchased can be given to them as a help, if they don't want them put the s*** away for something else. stop worrying about what anyone thinks. they live in your house and you shouldn't have to go out of your way for them. screw what others think if you keep that up you'll be sick and they will be moving on with their lives and paying you no mind.it's only one day. besides we both feel that this marriage isn't on a strong foundation.you know how we mothers just know these things.
2006-08-21 05:40:17 · answer #1 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have a reason to be upset. However, you need to remember, this is about your son and his wife. It is very easy to get caught up in the whole wedding stuff and make it about your own feelings instead of theirs. In this case the first thing you need to do is talk to your son's fiance and let her know exactly all you have invested and that you really would like to throw her a shower. Hopefully you would be inviting a different set of people than those who would be going to the one her mother is throwing. As for going to the other shower, you should take a gift. However, it doesn't need to anything big and fancy. You can find something inexpensive and yet meaningful if you just look.
2006-08-21 05:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your son that you already invested money into the shower and you think that it is very unfair for his wife to treat you they way she is doing. You didnt have to reshedule the baby shower, but out of the goodness of your heart you did. If she doesnt want it, find someone else who might want to use the space and ask them to pay you a certain price to use it, and the gifts and stuff that you brought, carry it over to her mothers house. If you already got a gift, you dont need to get another one.
Or ask your son and his wife to kindly give you the money back that you invested.
2006-08-21 05:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put the gifts and prizes in a closet and ignore her and her mom. Do some fun things for your self. Halloween is near give the prizes away then. The gifts - Christmas presents. The games to the children's hospital.
2006-08-21 05:51:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should re-think about what you are trying to accomplish here. I don't think under
the circumstances you need to buy her another gift - just keep back the one you got her at your shower and take it to the other shower - and if you saved the paper you can just shove it back in it!@
2006-08-21 05:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by nswblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't want your shower than just tell her, 'hey you didn't want my gift (shower) so I didn't buy you anything else b/c of it. She sounds like a real b*tch, I'm sorry and good luck!
2006-08-21 05:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kasie Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋