I live in Wisconsin, and we will be voting on a marriage amendment in November...?

Question

If it passes, it wouldn't only ban same sex marriage, but domestic partnerships and civil unions as well. My question is what should my partner and I do? I'm thinking of maybe adopting him, would that be legal? He is 7 years younger than me.

Answer 1

Adoption guards him in event of your death. It guards you in the event of his death ONLY if he has no other relatives. Have you considered joining forces to defeat this amendment? Now is the time to do it. Your lives will be greatly effected by the outcome. Volunteer, do whatever to defeat this evil stuff...and it is evil. Good luck

Answer 2

Why do you want to get married? What is the ulterior motive? Commitment, splitting everything 50/50 or the beneficial factor at the end when all goes to $H1T? I would like to split everything 50/50, do my own service (fake but real) for a wedding and have that feeling that my partner and I love each other deeply and are very committed to one another. We would have to be at the same level with everything or our needs would have to be mutual. You could get married elsewhere, do the whole move or what ever. Society is so screwed up now days that people can't walk, talk or drive without having someone say that, it's wrong. I am also in WI, my partner and I have been together for 4 1/2 years, he has medical and what not and I have nothing. I have to do what is best for me. We can only do so much for each other and but do so much more for ourselves! I don't know if this helped, was encouraging or just plain rude, but think of other things that make you both happy and try to work through other options and benefits for same-sex marriage.

Answer 3

Otterhey there, my son and hi from Oshkosh! I hope to God that amendment won't pass. It would deal a lot of good people a serious blow. I don't believe you can adopt your younger partner...you could try but I think adoptions in the Badger State are only for minors. We're all trying to defeat this amendment. Do what you can in your part of the state. My partner and I have been together for almost 26 years now and we wouldn't be very fond of not having a say in each other's decisions (both legal and medical) good luck, Dearheart and Blessings on you both.

Answer 4

is your partner a minor?? I don't think there are any benefits if you try adopt an adult, since there are no legal parental rights.

there are other, complicated, and expensive ways to get the same rights as straight couples, involving lawyers and lots of contracts. If you have domestic partnership benefits like insurance, there is no way around that.

You may want to identify the specific rights that you need in your relationship (for example, hospital visitation, shared property, etc) and go to a lawyer to write up a legal document (or do it yourself if it is a simple "durable power of attorney").

Answer 5

I'm in WI as well. First, we have to fight to try to make sure fail. Second, there are many of the rights that can be achieved through alternative means. Many times it deals with how you title the property (Joint Tenancy with Right of Survivorship). List as a beneficiary for insurance - does not have to be a domestic relationship. Ever thought about creating a trust? How about power of attorney?

It may take more work, but many of those can be had. Adopting is just strange...and I'm not sure how that would work since you're both adults.

Answer 6

LOL no, unfortunately if your partner is a legal adult, you cannot adopt him unless he has a physical or mental handicap that prevents him from fending for himself.

I totally see where you're coming from though. As a resident of the state directly south of you, my partner and I have many of the same problems and concerns. I worked with EQIL (Equality Illinois) to get the language of our state's Human Rights bill changed to include GLBT in the areas of employment, housing and accomodations.(Hotels/motels)

It was a very long battle, decades long, but finally we won and as of January of this year we are no longer in direct jeopardy of being fired from our jobs simply for being or being percieved as GLB or T.

Your state had some great forward strides in the past few years, I would hate to see it backslide into the dark ages with such a bill. Find out if your state has a political outreach group like mine does and see if you can voluteer to lobby your state reps/senators. Get out there and be heard!

Good luck!

Answer 7

However, this would not stop you from living together would it? As much as anyone else that has a roommate, this is what your option is to stay together. And of course, let people know you feel this amendment is wrong. Bombard your area with opposition, and hope for the best.

Answer 8

Start by doing everything you can to defeat it. Go to those straight people who you know and ask them to vote against it. Go to a polling place and stand against it with a sign asking people to vote no. Perhaps, while you are at it -- contact a local campaign against it and volunteer for 20 hours a week from now until the election -- that is how grassroots efforts are performed.

Regards,

Reynolds
http://www.rebuff.org
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Answer 9

there is a thing called fair wisconsin. my friend is the president of the local group here where i live. she helps spread the word to help stop the ban because it is very wrong. i can't believe other states have actually passed this hugely wrong ban on other people. this is a step backwards not a step forward. we need to be moving forward.

i believe the website is http://www.fairwisconsin.com

Answer 10

I don't believe you can adopt him if he is of legal age.

Instead of thinking of solutions if the bill passes, go to rallies, find out what you can do to get people to vote no. Become an activist in your community, go to some gay bars and hand out fliers so that people can see how it will effect them. If you don't fight it then you cannot complain about it.