2006-08-21 05:09:54 · 23 answers · asked by momsbx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I need help dealing with the pain and sadness I feel.
2006-08-21 05:30:40 · update #1
I am very sorry 2 hear about ur loss. My sister lost her child thru similar circumstances. She turned 2 God. She is now a much stronger person. Religion helped her overcome her grief. I hope it will help u.
2006-08-21 05:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by wotagem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very Hard to deal with. You just have to remember what you have not what you could of had. Things happen for reasons, so maybe that was for the best. It will still hurt you and you will never forget it but you really need to try and move on with life and carry on as the baby would want you to. I understand just how you must feel, I no that my little angel is up there waiting for me just like your is waiting for you. Hopefully you have lots of support from friends and family, they will get you through that is what helped me the most.
2006-08-21 12:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by momof3isme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look for a support group. You may find one dealing specifically with the loss of a child if you're in a larger metropolitan area. If not you will probably find one that deals with grief. Also, I know your friends can't possibly know exactly what this feels like, but they are your friends and love you. I would go to them. Sometimes friends know you're hurting badly and don't know what to say or do to help. It would be okay to tell them what you need. Call a close one up and tell them you're having a bad day and just need to talk to someone who'll listen. If that's what you need to do. Whatever you need from them, I'm sure they'd be happy to provide if you just tell them. They may be at a loss as to how to help you, but very willing to help, so give one of them a call. Also, I don't know if you're a christian, but I myself would be talking to Jesus a lot. Also, reading the Bible. He will give you comfort and strength. He helps you in your time of trouble.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I haven't experienced that kind of loss before and I can't even imagine how terrible it must feel. I'll be praying for you. May God heal your heart and bless you.
2006-08-21 12:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a type of pain no mother should have to endure. this is one of them. whether it is a baby lost before gestation, right after birth or when you've had a chance to know them. your questions a bit vague, as in do you need to know who to turn too to help with arrangements? or the ever pressing, who to turn to to help you.. if it is the second , friends, family and faith, not necessarily in that order and not just one. Also, you may consider talking to your doctor, you may not be able to sleep and may be tormented with your pain and may need help with med's . also know you are not alone, you are not being punished, and things after a time will get bearable..
2006-08-21 12:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by seranna99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should turn to the Lord, who is the God of all Comfort. You will find peace in Him. If you have never experienced His presence, you should talk to a friend or a family member who has, and they will help you. Being comforted by your spouse, and your family will help a little, but find a more perfect peace, God is the only answer.
I know He will bless you and keep you, just give Him a chance!
2006-08-21 12:18:30 · answer #5 · answered by peakfreak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through it, too. It's the worst possible thing that can happen to you. What I did to get through it was this: name the baby, and pretend as if it was always a part of your life. Buy a ring or a necklace to always wear in memory of them. I know it doesn't take the pain away, but it helps.
2006-08-21 12:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not as uncommon as you may thing, there are websites out there that can help you if your feeling depressed which most females do after having a miscarriage.
Feel better knowing that you have done nothing wrong and it is just natures way of life.
2006-08-21 12:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family.
There is no logic to it, I'm sorry. But consider this: The body can self-abort if there is something wrong with the child. Also, your child will not need to suffer, will never get sick or toil or work. The child will never worry about mortgages, measles, margin calls, or mortality, but was immediately exalted with Jesus in everlasting glory.
2006-08-21 12:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. Talk to your priest. I lost a child at the age of 7 years old and my priest is the one who help me see the light at the end of the tunnel. Sorry for your loss.
2006-08-21 12:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by SEXY 818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother lost a boy and a girl before addopting my mother.
There are social groups for this kind of thing
- Sorry
2006-08-21 12:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by spitfiressmarine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋