My fiancee found out that his cousin and I set him up to chat with herunder a differant screen name, I on't trust his chat with females, for what he has done to me in the past, he is mad at the situation, now, what should I do?
2006-08-21 05:04:46 · 20 answers · asked by crazy2have3kids 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't do anything you did what any other woman would do in that same case. I can't stand when men are in a relationship and still have the need to interacted with a lot of other females. I think it's wrong now if they have one or two female friends I would be okay with it but when it's several that's wrong. I for one don't like the chatting on the Internet thing with other females that's just something they shouldn't be doing. To me it's like they are looking for trouble and that's just the kind of trouble I don't want in my life. So don't feel bad for something he is doing if he's mad so be it he will get over it you did what you had to do.
2006-08-21 05:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did he do something wrong when he was chatting with her?? If so then do NOT let him turn this around on you. Lemme give you some GOLDEN advice... once a cheater always a cheater, and if you cant trust him, let this relationship go, NO MATTER HOW MUCH IT HURTS, and move on. There are TONS of good men out there that will not hurt you, My advice is to find out from the get go if they have ever cheated on anyone. If they have DONT DATE THEM... they will cheat again. Good luck
2006-08-21 12:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question....then I think you know what u have to do..if not..let me tell you....tell him that what he is doing is hurting you and you feel forced to do desperate things to find out if he can be trusted.... if he has a questionable past on the net then tell him your behavior is justified. But really if you think about it...this is a lot of work to find out if the man who is supposed to be your future husband is giving some attention to other girls that is certainaly inappropriate...you decide by his reactions...what your next step is going to be.....
2006-08-21 12:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by baibeegurlz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, if you don't trust him don't marry him. Also if he's done a lot to you in the past then maybe he doesn't respect you. And lastly, although what you did was immature, he sounds like a real jerk so who cares if he's mad, sounds like he asked for it.
2006-08-21 12:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.....what did he say in that chat with your cousin? If he was flirting with her, then screw him being mad, leave the douchebag.... but if he wasn't flirting, just being nice or something, then.... it's hard to say. Quite honestly, if he didn't want to be under a microscope, he should have thought about that before he cheated on you to begin with. Watch how he handles his anger though, if he's really taking it out on you, you BETTER LEAVE HIM.... because if he can't control himself when he's angry, you do NOT want to spend the rest of your married life with him.
2006-08-21 12:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Matt B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say what he did to you in the past but it sounds like you have trust issues with him - if you have not been able to trust him in the past and he is doing this - then you will not EVER be able to trust him - he is TROUBLE - let him go!@
2006-08-21 12:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by nswblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should either never talk about it again OR bring everything out in the open to your fiancee and tell him what you did.
2006-08-21 12:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
without trust a relationship cannot stand. It sound like there is no trust in your relationship. End it now.
2006-08-21 12:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
him talking on line with others is not the problem. your lack of trust for him and i assume he has cheated on you before are the problems..... ask him straight up if he is being unfaithful...if he says yes then you can live with it and address it as a problem. or not live with it and send him packing..if he says no then you should believe him or why bother asking. it makes no sense to ask a question for which you will not accept his answer.......
2006-08-21 12:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by greg f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize for lying to him. Two wrongs don't make a right, and what you did was wrong.
Not sure you two should be engaged if this is how you treat each other.
2006-08-21 12:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by merigold00 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋