Is it not normal for a couple to have no secrets and tell eachother everything?
Do you have secrets from your spouse or Gf/Bf?
2006-08-21 04:59:52 · 34 answers · asked by Precious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i wished my husband had no secrets because when if ind out one of them i wonder why he keep them secret. Like female friends he know, when i find out about one i wonder why he never told me about her or small things. I know i shouldn't worry but its a thing i think about sometimes. But he tells me they are not important so he never said nothing about them. Or things that happen at work, when he gets in trouble or things about Our "friends".
I guess everyone has secret and i am being to nosy when it comes to my husbands things.
2006-08-21 05:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal to have no secrets between you and your spouse, it means that the communication line is very open and more than likely if you tell your spouse everything, they will even know when something else comes up with a problem that you voiced earlier, and help you do something about it. I also don't have any secrets with my husband either, I love telling him everything. It lets him know that I trust him with my feelings and he knows that I am honest and trustworthy as well. I have never lied to him, so I feel like I never have to start. We have been together for three years and have been married for a little over a month now, and I can seriously say that I talk to him about nearly everything.
2006-08-21 05:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Lyndsey H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its better to be open with your partner than have secrets. Secrets have a way of coming back to haunt you when you least expect and usually that can cause problems in a relationship especially if its a shocker to your partner. Personally I have no secrets from my partner. We were both straight up with each other about the good and the bad. In a sense it has helped us understand each other better. If you have secrets you often evade a certain issue when mentioned or you lie to cover up. Either way its not encouraging as a trait in a person or the relationship.
2006-08-21 05:13:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wonderful question. In theory you don't want to keep secrets from the person you love/care about. It's my experience that there are some things you can't divulge to the person you care about, despite really wanting to.
There are things you might divulge that can color the other person's opinion of you. It might have been something that happened once, but they can hold that image of you even if it doesn't fit, one act does not make that part of your character, however your spouse, may not be able to separate the act from you, for quite a while.
Just be sure that what you're going to say is worth the harm it could cause, in your relationship.
2006-08-21 05:24:07 · answer #4 · answered by cookiemnster73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres still some thing that should remain private, like your mail, or your thinking processes. If u ever feel something about someone else. Sort it out by yourself, dont ask the other person cause thats not going to help, but get it worse. In that case just give him/her your final decision.
Theres some big secrets that affect you life or your signif other life. You should tell that sooner or later, but be cautious in the way you say it.
2006-08-21 05:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the secret and how it involves all parties at hand. My husband share all, good or bad, because we are not affraid of that the other might say and find comfort in the fact that we are each others best friend and NO subject is tabu. He knows much of my past and refer to it from time to time but with out jealousy and mallice. There are things that I haven't told him namely because it wasn't a memory worth holding on to and not because I was scared of his reaction. I keep secrets at Christmas, does that count? It's a judgement call. Pick your battles wisely.
2006-08-21 05:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by MrsPTB4Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with having secrets. Everybody has secrets. But if they are discovered don't try to cover them up. Also, hopefully those secrets don't involve cheating on your spouse, or some other unspeakable something.
2006-08-21 05:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal. it makes the bond even closer. for now no secrets and i do hope there will be none in future. if your spouse is a friend as well, then secrets do not come in. you can always tell him/her everything.
2006-08-21 05:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by babysims 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my past relationship, there were secrets everyday. He was one of those who had a story for everything. 18 yrs later, he can have his secrets.
Fastforward to today, I have someone that can tell me anything, and I can tell him everything. Why hide who/what you are? Look at what happens with secrets, skeltons or not.
I say no secrets. The truth can hurt, but lies are worse.
2006-08-21 05:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by shewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the partner -- some will use things against you years later -- that could be a bad thing. Some secrets are best kept just that -- secrets
2006-08-21 05:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by jennw33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋