My son going to turn 8 and is staying with Gran & Grandad for the summer holidays - should I be with him on his birthday?
2006-08-21 04:45:49 · 17 answers · asked by Kez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why?? Whenever I was away from my kids it was always me experiencing the guilt, while they had a whale of a time. I think you're beating yourself up over nothing. No doubt Gran and Grandad will give him a great day.
2006-08-21 04:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kez why not ask him if minds you not being there for his birthday. You can always phone him up and wish him a very happy birthday or better still spring him a surprise visit. You don't have to stay if it is not convenient but at least you will have been there to wish him a happy birthday.
Hope it works out well for you both.
Edit: I see now why you keep changing your name. Ignore the remarks from God. He should remember there but for the grace of god goes he.
2006-08-21 04:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong, not if he wants to stay with them. Life is tough sometimes and you cant always do the things you want. As long as he has his pressies to open and you ring him in the morning to sing happy birthday (maybe thats just me!!!) and let him know you love him and are thinking of him.
My son wants to go skiing on his birthday next year :o( I was like 'but its your birthday....' and hes like 'Yeah, what an awesome pressie". Dont worry about it, if he is secure and happy with your love, then he will be fine. Its not like you are forcing him to do it is it??
2006-08-21 04:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Moi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you think he's in danger of having Granny and Grandad killing him with a sugar overdose ... The best thing you can dother birthday for him when he comes home!
2006-08-21 04:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate the kids birthdays and would be thrilled if they were away and not to have to provide yet another birthday party! However if it bothers you, go see him, or have a party for him when he gets back, he'll be happy because he gets two birthdays.
2006-08-21 04:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL YES IF YOUR NOT FAR FROM THE GRAN PARENTS.UNLESS YOUR WORKING AWAY AND YOU CANNOT MAKE IT.IT WILL COST YOU AL OT.I LIVE FAR AWAY FROM MY LAD BUT I HAVE MISSED EVERY BIRTHDAY OF HIS SINCE HE WAS 4 HES GONNA BE 12 NOW BUT HE KNOWS I LOVE HIM VERY MUCH AND WHEN I AM WITH HIM I RELAY MAKE A FUSS OF HIM.HE APPRECIATES WHAT I DO FOR HIM.HE RESPECTS ME AND I HAVE NEVER FOUND HIM COMPLAINING.THEY GET USED TO IT.THE GRAN PARENTS SURE LOVE HIM AND CARE FOR HIM.THEY ARE LIKE PARENTS TO HIM MORE OVER
2006-08-21 04:56:47 · answer #6 · answered by mariolla oneill 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Course you should. Come up as a surprise and a new toy car or something. Cherish these moments with him while you can. Because trust me when he grows up faster than you can believe you surely don't want any regrets about not having being at each bday.
2006-08-21 04:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Bloody Kisses 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. No question. You can't re-do birthdays. Next year he will be 9 not 8.
2006-08-21 04:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - its his birthday h should do what he wants. This is just the first of many birthdays where you won't see him. Can't remember when i last spent my birthday with my mum but proably about his age!
2006-08-21 04:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so why don't you give him a surprise visit on his birthday cannot see why he cant spend the day with you and his grandparents, i think that would probably make his day having a parent and grandparent to spoil him on his birthday
2006-08-21 05:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋