I am a 19 yr old male and I am going to move out with my g/f. How do I go about telling my parents?

Question

I don't want to hurt thier feelings, i want thier support and to get it over with without them telling me 100 reasons why I shouldn't move out on my own because no matter what happens i'm going to do this. I just want it to go well.
How and what do i say to break it to them reasonably and easily?

Answer 1

Just tell them straight. You love this girl and you're taking the next step by moving in together. Tell them you'd like their support, but you are not asking for permission. You are an adult. And regardless of what you say, parents are going to be parents and they will give you 100 reasons not to do it, so get let them know you understand their concerns, but you feel you must do this. After all, you won't know till you try. Good luck.

Answer 2

Are you moving out with your girlfriend or moving in with your girlfriend? Their is not spelled thier.Just tell them what you told us here. Although at 19, I would assume that your grammar should be better. If your grammar is as bad as it is here, then how are you going to live on your own. Try and listen to their reasons, chances are they know things from experience. I say that because I always thought I knew everything at your age and now I know that I was wrong. Moving in with your girlfriend will only create problems. Are you trying to get away from your parents to be independent and prove that your an adult? The world is scary. I know that you want to be an adult, but wait a few years. Do the sensible thing, like one day marry her. The key is one day. If you love her so much and vice versa then moving in shouldn't even be necessary. Statistics show that people who move in with someone always have problems and their relationship never works out. I know I'm giving you a 100 reasons, it's because I'm 30 and when I was 19 I moved in with my boyfriend(now husband) and we have had problems the whole time.

Answer 3

make sure your parents know the person your moving in with... and sit your parents down, make them some coffee/tea/lunch (yeah like a grown man) and tell them maturly that you are going to move out. give them 30 days notice, and that your roommate is the girl and that you hope your parents will support you... and make sure that you don't ask for money. they will ask you tons of questions. like are you sure? you say yes, I have a job make so and so an hour and expect to get this much money a month and the roommate is going to help out too. If you act mature enough when you break the news to your parents your parents will have no choice but to treat you like an adult. Good luck.. and if your parents don't like the idea explain to them that you really really want to start growing up and you feel like this is the best step for you.

Answer 4

you won't hurt their feeling by telling them that you are ready to move out and get on with your life. you could bring this kinda subject up at the dinner table. or when you think is the best time to talk about what you are gonna do with the rest of your life. plus you should also tell them that you are gonna be moving in with your girl friend and that you are gonna get a job. leave them a number just in case they decide to call you

Answer 5

o.k ask them first of all if you can speak to them and then say to them that you are looking for support rather than critism, reassure them you love them, but want to explore your own life, but would be more comfortable knowing that they are there for you if anything goes wrong. have they met your g/f ? and do they like her ? if the answer to my to my ? are yes then you are 50% there anyway. when you move out make sure you visit regularly to both sets of parents and also invite both sets of parents around for a meal either together or seperately to show them you are o.k and can manage on your own's.

Answer 6

if your man enough to move out then your man enough to tell your parents and you need no help from us