He would have to be at the house all the time anyway to watch children. I would not have enough money to live on, but too much money to qualify for assistance. He does not make enough to pay more than nominal child support.
2006-08-21 04:41:51 · 24 answers · asked by carolinastomper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless one of you have cheated on the other, I would suggest not splitting up. Even then, in your situation, I would consider trying some kind of counseling before making a decision like that. Besides the financial problem, your divorce would end up hurting your kids and letting them think that divorce is an option when they are tired of their spouse. When you got married, did you make promise to take care of each other in sickness, health, poor, rich, etc? Also the Bible quotes Jesus as saying He hates divorce, but only allows the exception of adultery. Not saying that you should cheat, but at least try to find some sort of counseling if neither of you have cheated.
2006-08-21 04:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by Bobby D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO why don't you try and work out your troubles. It could just be money getting you down as it does for most people. It takes a lot of work to mend but maybe you will find there is still something there and it will be the best thing for your kids if you try and stick it out if you feel there's a chance. If not, well you are about to embark on a very difficult journey...no guarantees life will be any better either, and who knows what woes your kids will get into without either of you around and them being raised "on the streets".
Think good and hard.
2006-08-21 04:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... I guess that you sound like you two would still be married. See if you can live seperate lives in the same home. Being that finances would not be easy for either of you and then sounds like the children would have a rougher life. Save up some $ to separate.... and have you tried marital counseling?
2006-08-21 04:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you are going to be another woman staying around for the wrong reasons.....if money is a problem then I suggest you get a better job that way you are secure enough to care for your children and can separate without the added perks you need.
2006-08-21 04:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you need to ask yourself is whether you want money or your freedom? You evidently don't care about the kids if you've already given him the responsibility of watching them all the time. Find you a sugar daddy and move out so your kids won't have to find out what a selfish person you really are.
2006-08-21 04:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by purplehays 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your finances in order first. Both of you need to be able to support yourself and your kids.
If you know you can't survive on your own at this time, I say forgo separation and if you really want to separate get in the process again of making your finances stronger so you an adjust to being apart.
It's important you do this anyway in today society, what if one spouse dies. When you have kids its the adult and mature thing to do is plan their future correctly.
2006-08-21 04:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that you have too many expenses for what you actually get as income.. maybe you should sit down with a financial advisor and sort that out... if you want to split.. try to find someone to share an apartment with.. or if you can.. share with your husband until you can both afford to go on your side.. that was something you should both have thought about before putting 2 children into this world .. don't ya think ?
Good luck
2006-08-21 04:49:21 · answer #7 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyone at all you can turn to that you can live with for a little while? If not, try to hang in there as long as possible to save up some money to get out of there.
2006-08-21 04:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by Kesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money isnt everything. But if you can't support yourself and your children without him then get a better job. Don't make yourself misserable just to keep him there to pay the bills. You could also get a cheaper home..
2006-08-21 04:48:45 · answer #9 · answered by onefinedayitwillb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alas, that's why the middle class usually get married and stay married. Too poor to separate.
If you agree, maybe an open marriage? Just can't bring them home, but you and him can see other people. Just an idea.
2006-08-21 04:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋