I have been dating a guy for 4 months, everything went well. Met each others family and he wanted me to move in his house with him and my daughter. He wanted me to transfer my job over by where he lives. We had soo many plans and everything was fine. I got arrestested last week for something real stupid & because of him I came out. "he's a cop". I spoke to him afterwards & everything seemed fine. The last time I heard from him was this past Fri and he sounded very depressed & told me that he just put his house on the market 2 sell, he also told me that he would call me later on, because he was very busy. That was the last time I heard from him & he wont pickup my calls and wont respond to my messages. We were remodelling the house 2gether so we would boths move in. What do u think? Should I go to his house? I have most of my stuff overthere. Should i wait until he calls me? Do u think he dumped me because of the incident with my arrest? Do you think he just needs time alone?
2006-08-21 04:40:43 · 26 answers · asked by DrEamCaTcHeR!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this is a tough one! It could be one of so many things. He could be very busy but I don't see any reason that he can't at least pick up the phone to tell you that. I'm going through the same thing right now...without the house and kids. If he dumped you I would think he would have the courtesy to tell you. Since you have your things at his house call him and leave a message saying you need to get something and if you don't hear from him to make arrangements for a certain date then you are just going to go over there! That should make him call you one way or the other. Good Luck!
2006-08-21 04:49:39 · answer #1 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the two of you didn't seem so serious, I would say to just forget about it. Since the two of you were remodeling a house together, I think he at least owes you an explination if he is in fact breaking up with you. You need to go over there and demand an answer. Since he's a cop, and you were arrested, that maybe started him thinking outerwise about your relationship. good luck
2006-08-21 04:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion is that the relationship was moving to too fast 4 months is no time to really get to know someone and maybe he just realized it. Any how this should tell u something about him/you (don't ignore the signs) Yes he should have called u back! Yes he should be a man and tell u whats going on! ( if he needs some time alone) why wouldn't he what to talk to u if he REALLY CARES!
DON"T TRY TO MAKE A LEAF INTO A ROOT!!
DON"T IGNORE THE SIGNS !!!!
TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND MOVE ON!!!
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-08-21 05:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by dj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I know, a cop cannot have anything happen with people around him and the law. Especially like getting arressted. It could put his job on the line. He may be forced to either end it with you or loose his job. He is depressed because obviously he loves you, you two were planning a future together. I really don't know what advice to give, I am sorry you are going through this. You may want to call him to arrange to get your belongings, and try to talk to him.
2006-08-21 04:50:40 · answer #4 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is because of the arrest, he's a judgmental sob on his high horse, but i dont think that thats actually the case. he's probably just swamped at work and needs some time to get himself straightened out. however, how long has it been since you heard from him? if its been longer than a week, i suggest you go over there and at least find out where you stand, because if you ignore it, not only will the relationship dissolve, but he will also get away with a lot of your stuff at his house. better to know and be sure, then to not know and be guessing. go talk to him. in person. at home, or at work. whatever it takes.
2006-08-21 04:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You came out? You mean you're a guy and having a homosexual relationship with this cop and you came out? Did you out him too? That could be the issue.
Or does "come out" mean something else to you? If so, we're clueless and need a little more info.
Bottom line -- he's selling the house you though you were going to share. I'd suggest you retrieve your belongings as soon as possible and make time to talk, face to face, with your boyfriend.
2006-08-21 04:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men can get stupid about relationships for a variety of reasons, and often times if theya re too immature to be a man and break up with you to your face, they just stop calling.
HOWEVER, since you have belongings in this house, by all means go over there and get your stuff back NOW!!!
If he wants to continue a relationship, he will call you when you are ready. Stop calling and messaging him until you hear back from him.
2006-08-21 04:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think someone probably spoke to him and got to him. Probably someone he works with. Either way it sounds like the end. I would simply ask him when you could come and pick up your stuff and just go over and do it or ask him to drop the stuff out. Be friendly and cordial. Being a guy, sounds very familiar. Get your stuff back asap. Don't let stuff like that linger. GO about your way.
2006-08-21 04:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by kms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he probably just needs some time alone. Perhaps you might have put his job or professionalism in jeopardy? I'm not sure, but just give it time, and don't make any drastic decisions just yet, because it sounds like you've invested quite a lot into this relationship. Good luck.
2006-08-21 04:48:26 · answer #9 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go over there...if he gets upset or if the situation is awkward....explain that you came to get you stuff because you assume the relationship is over since he is avoiding you..if he wants to be with you then he will give you a very sincere reason why he hasn't called.
2006-08-21 04:50:00 · answer #10 · answered by Honey Dip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋