SO me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 6 monthes now... He is so sweet and we were best friends for like a year now. I love him with all my heart, but theres this little douibt in my mind that he doesnt think im all that wonderful... I know that i have problems with thinking that Im not pretty and stuff like that Im very self concious about my body too... I know he does love me and he makes me feel special ... but its like i keep bringing it up cause that little voice in my head. theres no doubt that well be together forever ..and I know if i was confident things would be pervfect... if i am ever happy with my body will all of this foolishness stop.. Its so hard to let someone love you when you dont love yourself... help plz:( and its like Im asking to much like no matter how sweet he is i still want ask for more i still wanna feel more special..
2006-08-21 04:40:02 · 7 answers · asked by somethingcorporate<3 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
slow down and consider what is more important.
your time together is more important, spend your emotional time doing that.
either that or you'll drive him away.
stress of any type will effect a relationship.
enjoy that time while you two are together, self conciousness is never a good idea it always works out poorly, for everyone.
2006-08-21 04:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you had brothers who teased you about everything and anything. Brothers ruin so many girls who end up with low self esteem. Here is what to do: Stand in front of a mirror with a pen and paper. Starting at the top of your head, list the good things, the not so good things and those which you consider bad. Continue down - eyes, nose, mouth, teeth, chin, neck. Then down your body, right down to your toes. When complete, see the not so good things you may be able to do something about such as a new hair style, make-up etc. Even try to improve the things you are happy with. The couple of things you dislike about yourself, ACCEPT them for what they are. They are the things that make you an individual and give you character. There is no such thing as an ugly woman. You are all beautiful in your own way. Take pride in yourself and for God's sake stop boring the young man with your self pity. You have to be careful or you will drive him away. Love him and he will love you for what and for who you are.........Take care and Good Luck....................
2006-08-21 11:53:19 · answer #2 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have an inferiority complex, nothing will help you feel more special until you can accept yourself. Your boyfriend has accepted you as you are and that should tell you that you are a special person. You have to look deep inside and figure out why you feel that you have to be better. Remember that to the world you may be just another girl, but to your boyfriend, you are the world. Good luck.
2006-08-21 11:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by happybidz2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like you. It took someone special to remove that dark curtian that I had wrapped around me. You've got to just be yourself and things will fall into place. I don't know how old you are, but if a guy really likes you, he will love you for who you are and he will see beyond the little things. It's like the cake theory: It looks good on the outside, but what it contains on the inside is even sweeter. Keep your chin up, and it will all fall into place like it should.
2006-08-21 11:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See that your "self" is just the combined thoughts about said character repeated very fast, more frequently than all other thoughts (which are all relative to that one "self" thought), and that there's peace in the absence of those thoughts. All the drama with respect to those thoughts (e.g. "MY boyfriend", "MY body") will slowly cease as those thoughts and others depending upon them halt. But they don't just stop of their own, they have an inertia proportional to how often and deeply they've been repeated, but perpetually looking at the reality of "self" (i.e. that it's just a collection of thoughts) eventually overcomes that inertia.
2006-08-21 12:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by jethrick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have said it yourself: you cant love someone unless you love yourself first. My advise is to take care of your problem, as the guy already make you feel special and such. If you dont fix this, you are jeopardizing your relationship. Why not seeking professional help?
2006-08-21 12:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by Apollo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what us girls do!!!
Men are NOT always talky about complements. If you keep fishing for them, you are liable to lose your boyfriend. He shouldn't have to tip-toe around you and your feelings about yourself.
Ask Jesus into your heart. He gives you confidence. love for yourself, self esteem, you don't worry about your body and you WON"T be constantly worried what your boyfriend thinks of you. You'll be wanting to please God, and then He makes everything else fall into place!!
2006-08-21 11:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋