I have worked for this very small company for a little over a year. I love my co-workers dearly..they are amazing. However I don't really enjoy the work I do (hence being here on yahoo). A job doing exactly what I want to do is open at another company. I sent my resume. Oh my god though I feel guilt wracked. What should I do. What is better loving your job or loving your co-workers? If I do leave how do I break it to them.....this will be bad. They have spent a lot of money and time training me (well kind of..it's too small to have real training) and I know I'll hurt them.
2006-08-21 04:28:53 · 12 answers · asked by Lisa 3 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I understand being close to co-workers, but ask yourself a couple questions, such as:
1. As much as I love my co-workers, are they going to pay my bills or buy my groceries?
2. Would one of them hesitate a second to take THEIR dream job if the opportunity came along?
You will not get many opportunities in life to land a job you know you'll really enjoy doing. I understand guilt, you feel as though you're abandoning your co-workers, but if the situations were reversed, I'm sure they would take the job and try to remain close friends with his or her current co-workers.
If they are really your friends, they will understand what youre going through. They will also support you as you make a difficult job transition. Just remember, don't burn bridges. You may need that job back again someday. Let them know how special they are to you and how badly you feel about leaving, but you have to follow your heart.
2006-08-21 04:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love your job. Co-workers come and go; you won't always like them. If you've made genuine friendships with some of your co-workers, that can continue after you leave.
Express your appreciation for the time your employer has invested in you. Explain that you didn't know what the job involved until you got into it but now you realize it's not a good career match so staying wouldn't be good for you or them in the long term. Tell them you'll be glad to help find and/or train a replacement.
Best of luck in getting the job you want!
2006-08-21 11:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by bigbadboss.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over thinking this. People change jobs all the time. Your co-workers will understand and still like you and eat lunch with you periodically. You will also probably love the people at the next job. You need to be happy in your job. You will spend a quarter of your life from the age of 20-60 at work and you should enjoy it.
2006-08-21 11:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes this is hard but your job, income, and future overrides your bond with your co-workers. Why don't you bring up the idea on a lunch break or something? Slowly, get them to support your sending a resume. You don't have to tell them there's a job open, but that it's just something your doing to see what else is out there. I really hope this helps, it seems like you're in a really tough situation. Good luck!
2006-08-21 11:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by manateeluver32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing worse than hating your job! Move on. If you've made such amazing friends, it says more abbout you than it does about them. You must be a really nice person and able to make friends wherever you go. Keep in touch with the people you work with now after you've left, of course.
And don't feel bad for the company: people leave their jobs all the time. That's just life when you employ people. They're you're boss, not your parents.
2006-08-21 11:36:37 · answer #5 · answered by nev 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. You have to think of your future. If you are stuck in a job that is blah for you, you will never excel. You need to be doing something you like.
I hope that your co-workers will see that you are doing what is best for you. You can maybe plan to meet them for lunch or after work every month or two.
2006-08-21 11:35:50 · answer #6 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take advantage of the opportunity. if it will help you move up and learn more things and do something you really love, that is way more important. of course if your new co-workers suck, that won't be too fun ... but i think it's worth the try, because you want to do that job and hopefully you'll be getting more pay? ...
good luck ...
2006-08-21 11:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by Natalie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you give them the right amount of notice. (2 weeks is standard) That is a nice thing to do. If you will be making the same money, is it worth a lateral move? It's a personal call I guess. As long as you give them the notice then you are not burning any bridges.
2006-08-21 11:35:36 · answer #8 · answered by dmc81076 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better to love your work. Keep your old collegues as friends but they wouldnt want to think they were holding you back from being happy.
2006-08-21 11:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make sure that you are happy, that is the most important thing. Go for what you want to do, that will make you happy.
2006-08-21 11:41:05 · answer #10 · answered by Colleen L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋